Heartbroken, been a year. I've fucked other women need help.

Coopersma · 2017-04-04T02:17:48+00:00

It sounds very painful. So sorry.

To get past this, first you have to let go of the ex. No more checking her social media, no more thinking about what it would be like if she came back crying for forgiveness. Nothing.

Then, give yourself a little free time to heal. Every injury takes time to heal and you just denied there was a wound and picked up a body for sex. Denial increases your injury and the scars.

After a few weeks, you will start noticing a difference in yourself. No thinking of her. Looking forward to doing stuff with friends, etc. Then, and only then, will you be ready to try a new relationship.

I have faith in you.

Renzotl56 · 2017-04-04T02:48:19+00:00

As messed up as it might sound. Pretend she never existed/or she passed away. Completely block her out of your mind and forget it all.

Go out and talk to people, so new things, travel and join club. Anything that'll keep you distracted and help you realize there's more to the world.

Keep her off the pedestal that you have her on right now. She obviously wasn't so great if she left you. And if she did it's cause you were a beta. concentrate all your effort into bettering yourself and getting with women hotter than your ex.

What helped me a lot was to hit the gym and try to look better. Just as a big fuck you to her. It worked, i felt better and i'm looking better.

GetHimSomeMilk · 2017-04-04T04:07:09+00:00

Start listening to trap music

b33k3rz · Tue Apr 4 2:55:14 2017 UTC

Man, I don't know if I want to be in your situation or mine. I've never loved a woman like you sound like you loved your ex

All I do is fuck random girls and I feel a longing for a real connection

better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all?

nomadglobetrotter · 2017-04-04T04:40:52+00:00

In addition to other constructive suggestions, I would add that you need to watch the quality of your food. It needs to be balanced, rich, and diverse. This will be a small aid in your fight over the depression. The time will heal. Those phases after losing someone come in a weird order, but they all eventually pass and you will become free.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-04-04T04:43:03+00:00

Hey man it gets better. Why don't you go ahead and block her? Her role in your life no longer serves a positive purpose, so you have to let her go and move on. Don't get me wrong, I check my exes' social medias every now and then but just to see what beta theyve settled for or how much weight theyve gained.

Whisper · 2017-04-04T08:55:13+00:00

I think I'm depressed, I check her social media about once a week and I still fantasize about her though I know I could never take her back as she left me for someone else.

Brainstems don't know the difference between fantasy and reality.

Pastatuna1234 · 2017-04-04T14:25:03+00:00

lol i was the same about a month or two ago. My gf left me a year ago but i know that she still loves me and even in class she keeps looking at me but idgaf. I skipped a semester of college and was sad everyday and was playing squash and reading. One day my friend told me that she was dating him and i was furious and drank a shit tonne for the first time in 10 months during which i was sober. I felt terrible and fucked and hired some escorts but couldnt even get it up. I was on Prozac and beta blockers due to depression and hypertension. Then I said fuck it. Ive been sitting at home long enough, my parents are beating me if i drink, calling me shit names and abusing me, my grandad is a sadist entering my room at 5 am everyday and throwing water at me for no reason and asking me to do yoga at all times and occupy the rest of my time by studying as according to him exercising is a waste of time. I took a flight to my college and resumed my studies.

Two months in, i feel fit as fuck as i have been exercising everyday. I took a 3 day holiday to Rome and got chicks every single day. Two of them were amazing as fuck and even let me do anal. They were great to talk with and partied with me every fucking day, from dawn till dusk. I met shit tonne of new people and realised all my friends and that dumb ex of mine are replaceable by people who are better but guess what, if i keep sitting at home i will never get a chance to meet people like me. Meanwhile, my ex has grown fat and her bf is a beta who has been our "best friend" for 3 years while i fucked her. He isnt allowed to bring friends over to their apartment as she doesnt like it. She never pulled this shit up with me. She cant face me and stops on her tracks when i bump into her and turns the other way.

Get the fuck out, meet people, go to the gym, get fit, bang women who like you and are good at sex, get to know new women and i can definitely say most of them are better than your ex. She will become fat, drink and be hung up on you. you got this

GunPostal · 2017-04-04T15:06:22+00:00

You need to release your negative energy or you will come back to it in a loop. Google EFT and EMDR.

northern_yeti · 2017-04-04T10:06:18+00:00

First of all...

Also, focus on your life. Nothing else. Occupy your time by picking up something you're into and immerse yourself in it. You'll have a lot less time to ponder your ex and stop caring, she sounds like she doesn't care about you anyway. You don't want women in your life like that unless you're just exploring their insides.

awkwardtouching · Tue Apr 4 11:29:24 2017 UTC

How long were you together? Honestly if the girl left you for another guy the relationship could not have been perfect. remind yourself of the those things she contributed to the relationship. Keep in mind she was probably also emotionally cheating on you for a portion of the relationship

Honestly it may sound stupid but you have to choose to stop putting her on a pedestel. You need to get realistic about the type of person she is.

Furthermore, blockk her on social media. the fact that you have been allowing yourself to do that for so long isn't healthy

Finally, I get it. My ex dumped me and within 2 weeks was with an old fling of hers. She is still contacting me regularly which makes shit hard as hell.

Focus on you. Get angry. Keep dating.

prostaddict · 2017-04-04T19:11:04+00:00

How long were you two together? I was in a toxic 2 year and I didn't start getting better until I blocked her on all social media. Thoughts of her still come and go but blocking her has helped immensely. You need to bite the bullet and do this.

bacheloritis · 2017-04-04T20:00:31+00:00

Light a candle and listen to this on repeat:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9yZ1uI5yPbY

Have yourself a good cry.

nisocaniso · 2017-04-04T17:06:59+00:00

i am interested in knowing why your ltr went to shit, mind sharing?

Title	Heartbroken, been a year. I've fucked other women need help.
Author	515sofar
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Date	April 4, 2017 2:11 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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