Am I not patient enough?

MattyAnon · 2017-04-19T16:04:47+00:00

My question is, am I not patient enough or was this the correct move to do?

This was the correct move. If she's not easy and willing to meet up, then next.

In my mind she is possibly waiting for something else and keeping me on the back burner

Yes, and/or other disinterested reasons.

AchillesHeel77 · 2017-04-19T18:58:07+00:00

This is how you do it, Fuck the time wasters or the let me see if I can get a better offer bitches

buncha_circles · 2017-04-19T15:47:31+00:00

It might've been your choice of Friday or Saturday night. First off, women are going to be busy with their friends or guys on those nights. Secondly, having those nights off -- you communicated specifically BOTH nights free for her -- indicates you have no social life and thus low status because both Friday and Saturday nights are social nights.

You did the correct move by moving on to another woman. But adapt your logistics. Best way I've gotten newer women to hang out with me Friday or Saturday is to invite them out in the evening and say "I'm free till 9ish then I gotta leave to hang with my buds." This puts the interaction in your frame, gives you an out if shit goes bad, and also gives you an out to let her stick around because "my buds will understand."

LordThunderbolt · 2017-04-19T21:59:24+00:00

Explain how you were impatient? Rather than sitting like a duck waiting for 1 chick to possibly agrre, you successfully booked 2 dates with 2 other girls. That's abundance mentality at its finest. Don't stop shining my man.

1Pink1Stink · 2017-04-19T21:33:49+00:00

You did good boy

PIeight · 2017-04-19T18:03:41+00:00

My question is, am I not patient enough or was this the correct move to do?

It was correct. If she wanted to see you, she would have said yes or gave you an option for another time if she wasn't available.

ppzhao · 2017-04-19T22:15:47+00:00

It was the correct move. She told you she would get back to you when she got home, she didn't. You made alternate plans without her. You're a backup option for her. She now is a backup option for you as well.

RedditAdminsSuck_88 · 2017-04-19T16:40:19+00:00

Never ask a woman if she is free

Never ask women questions

SkimSTi · 2017-04-19T17:09:43+00:00

to add to what others have already said, you didnt really make a specific date. you said "these 2 days, after 7"..... which means nothing. thats a non direct question that gives means for them to flake. because if they don't have friday, they can ignore you, then say 'well he said or saturday...'...

its best to just be more direct. pick a day that works best for you. ask X day at Y time. make it a yes or no. they are free or they arent.

Title	Am I not patient enough?
Author	AchillesHeel77
Upvotes	10
Comments	24
Date	April 19, 2017 3:39 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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