I turn into a pussy after a month of dating.

Demonspawn · 2013-12-19T02:55:33+00:00

Kay, hear me out here: your problem isn't that you're looking to settle down, but it's that you're desperate to settle down. Because of that, you're willing to compromise, and give up things just to make her happy. One of the things that you gave up was what attracted her to you in the first place: your independence. Without this, you become needy and clingy, and she loses all respect for you. No woman will put up with this shit. They do not want to take care of a kid.

So, if you ever want a serious, stable relationship, you've got to always be independent. Do your own thing. If she doesn't let you do your thing, move on, because she's insisting that you be less of who you are. And that's not a girl you want to be in a relationship with.

Start now. Start doing what ever the hell you want. (IE: what you were doing before you met her.) She will get angry, nay, she will get pissed, and you WILL NOT GIVE A DAMN. This is the way you are. If she's not willing to admit that this turns her on, she can get back on the cock carousel and ride it right into the wall. It's your will against hers. Don't tell me you've got a weaker will than a slutty 21 year old.

SpinalArt · 2013-12-18T21:32:48+00:00

You're going in with an outcome in mind and you're not willing to put yourself on the line because of that.

GunsGermsAndSteel · 2013-12-19T01:06:47+00:00

Here's something you might try.

Delete her number from your phone. Don't save it. That way she has to text/call you first, and you can't be a little bitch and text her stupid shit all day.

2013-12-18T22:07:21+00:00

She is not ready to settle down. You are probably sending signals that you are and it's turning her off.

iamthewacokid · 2013-12-19T02:15:20+00:00

The place to go is Married Man Sex Life. I would get on the forum and post right away. The site's author, Athol Kay, is THE expert on red pill marriage. Seriously, help is on the way. Goog luck, pal. Pulling for you.

2013-12-19T06:52:25+00:00

The problem is not you turning into a beta when dating, it's that you have one remnant of the beta mindset left that you must get rid of.

Scarcity mindset. "Oh my time to find a good woman is running out... Oh it's tough to land a hot 21 year old, I better not screw this up because there may not be another chance this good".

Get rid of it. What is happening is because you are dating these younger girls who are about to get on their carousel years, and you know it's coming due to RP theory, you are getting fatalistic. Like "oh she's going to cheat, she won't want to commit to me, she is going to go for a younger guy, etc". That is suicide, and you know it.

A lot of guys are more confident dating 29 year old women than 21 year olds, because while the 21 year old is prone to hop on some DJ's cock, the 29 year old is desperate for marriage and will do whatever it takes to hold a high SMV male. But this is a case of needing to FORGET the theory, and just do it. You CAN hold down the 21 year old hottie, you just need a stronger frame and outcome independence. Similarly, the 29 year old is just as capable of jumping on DJ cock as the 21 year old. Women are women are women. Same general laws apply. The problem with getting oneitis like you are getting is you forget this fact - you're GF is dancing to the same drum all women dance to. Which is - the highest value male with the strongest frame gets the rights to her pussy, end of story. You're either going to be that male or you're not.

kzwrp · 2013-12-18T22:19:21+00:00

The thing with girls is, they like a guy who has options.

Your fault for cutting off contact to your other girls. Time to reestablish, turn them into plates, make her see that you can pull and keep them.

AfterC · 2013-12-19T05:13:56+00:00

You've changed because you've adopted an uncompromising desire for one particular outcome. She's hating you for this. You said you already cut off your other girls. It's time to hit them up again.

themaxx77 · 2013-12-19T12:31:25+00:00

Sounds like the girls you date are not relationship material

the_mustache_rider · 2013-12-18T21:40:39+00:00

Shes 21, i would expect a 21 year old to cheat. Simply put dude... Quit being needy. Its childish. You should be your own person with shit to do. Make her be the one needing you. When you start acting needy, to me that is being a little bitch. She will know you arent going anywhere and will walk all over you. Its possible to be loving and still want to do shit by yourself.

When you become needy, you also become very boring and stale. Also never wait on a text.. you should have your own life and something better to do than let it revolve around what she wants.

ishkabibs · 2013-12-19T04:25:25+00:00

I'm really surprised that no one has mentioned this....but she's 21 dude. If this is any indication of the women you are dating then this is your real problem. These bitches just left their parents house, by your own account, you were a whore in your 20's, what makes you think she isn't? The only thing these girls want are dick and freedom. Yeah 21 year old pussy is great for a bang but that bitch isn't wife material.

You aren't looking for a fuck, you want a wife. Stop picking up ho's in bars and street corners and start looking for established women closer to your own age.

Good luck on the hunt.

2013-12-19T02:23:41+00:00

Dude, pick a new one. If you want marriage, that's great. This girl doesn't.

How loudly must she scream it at you?

nicknameminaj · 2013-12-19T04:36:48+00:00

Okay non-redpiller here. I know you obviously want redpill advice but let me just point out an observation.

You're successful with women, you are good at meeting them and dating them, but you say you've never kept them for more than a year.

Then you try to take these girls who you've presumably met in the same context (bar? club? idk.) and make a long term relationship of it. To me it sounds like a long term version of the classic "we met and we fucked and i want a relationship but he doesn't???" misunderstanding. Of course I don't know the context. Have you been upfront with her and said you're looking for possibly(!) a long-term commitment?

Barring that circumstance, my advice is to 'suppress' your fiery passion a little bit and let it smolder through your presumably permanent relationship. Also, remember, she's young, she may not be looking for that at all right now. You might consider dating someone a bit older with the same mindset (I know I know not very redpill)

yes_thats_right · 2013-12-19T04:22:05+00:00

You are 35. She is 21.

This has nothing to do with alpha, beta, redpill, etc.

No 21 year old girl is going to start dating a 35 year old with the intention of falling in love and settling down. She just wants a bit of fun and will then move on.

If you want to settle down, date someone who is at that stage in life.

_Xi_ · 2013-12-18T22:40:50+00:00

She's cheating on you. There is no doubt in my mind. A woman just doesn't give up like that without already having a new source of positive feelings coming in.

latrodectus02 · 2013-12-19T14:02:10+00:00

The most important point that as highlighted below is the age difference. I can tell you from experience a 21 yearold is just looking for fun. I know it may be difficult to hear that but the red pill is hard to swollow sometimes. You need to start talking to your old hookups again. She has not stopped talking to hers. You are in dangerous waters man. If you invest too much feeling in this you are going to be in for some emotional pain. She is making some major moves to control you. Back in my blue pill days I was in a similar situation.

CyricYourGod · 2013-12-19T03:29:37+00:00

Your problem is you're projecting your need to settle down with an emotional twist of desperation. Desperation is not an attractive thing to project. Essentially you're living a self-fulfilling prophecy. You're desperate because you're afraid you'll lose girls. You lose girls because your desperate.

First off, I would recommend reframing yourself. You should know based on the number of notches in your belt, this girl won't be your last if she leaves tomorrow. Treat her as such. She should know that you'd next her the second she doesn't perform to your satisfaction because you're a man who has fucking self-esteem and you don't have time for bullshit.

Find something to spend your time on--particularly something that maintains or increases your SMV. Your girl should see you still capable of getting pussy (and see rival pussy in your social sphere). In the wild, your desperation would be a tell of some sort of problem concerning your reproductivity. You're basically saying: "Please don't leave me because no other women would want to have sex with me." This is why women run off. At a base level, women want men they know are capable of putting babies in them.

I know you have too much free time on your hands because you're worried about a couple missing hours. Start filling that time with self-esteem boosting activities. She should be the one worried about what the fuck you're doing when you're not texting her. You should be reestablishing some of your past plates and start spinning. You don't need to cheat but should have a warm plate ready for if/when you need to next her. This in itself will change your outlook and should improve your current relationship.

As a FYI: I wouldn't pick a woman who has qualities that indicate she might cheat.

HMNbean · 2013-12-19T16:21:11+00:00

I don't think you can have a serious relationship with a 21 year old girl, no matter how RP you are or think you are. Fact is she's only 2 decades old - why would she want to slow things down and settle?

aaron_the_just · 2013-12-18T22:23:45+00:00

time to start dispensing the anal sex

split it evenly between times she enjoys it, and the time when you are simply laying down straight domination

straight domination: warm her up enough to be horny, then switch to anal. always do it on all fours, pull hair, etc. use just enough lube. if she's on birth control/you rawdog her pussy, drop your load up her ass (the sensation of expelling semen is similar to having intestinal cramps). do not get her off. she'll probably just submit sometimes and lay on the bed instead of staying on all fours. keep pumping away and enjoy the sensation of being push up against her ass.

enjoying it: eat her out or fuck her, use a latex glove or a condom to work 2 - 4 fingers into her ass. when she gets close to orgasm, stop focusing on her clit and just focus on moving in and out of her ass. use PLENTY of lube.

put her on all fours or on her back, then slowly, gently introduce your cock into her ass. she'll be surprised, because it will feel good. gradually increase your speed and depth, watching the pace to make sure she keeps enjoying it. eventually, she'll be loosened up her enough her asshole will start to gape (you'll notice because she won't seem as tight anymore). pull out and ejaculate on her back or stomach.

once she's accepting anal sex at 2 or more times per week, she's yours.

angryuser_trp · 2013-12-19T00:48:41+00:00

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positiveeagle · 2013-12-19T05:13:01+00:00

You haven't been unplugged yet. If you want to have kids, try to have kids. There's no reason to go out of your way and pussify yourself.

TheGuelfOfNewMexico · 2013-12-19T00:23:08+00:00

Move to Thailand and marry a Thai girl. And stay there.

Let's analyze. Move to Thailand, you can actually go anywhere in Asia, Japanese girls are submissive and really accepting [for your neediness]. Korean girls are stuckup quite a bit. But you can bring em down, although they won't accept your neediness. Chinese girls, fuggetaboutit!

But find a country with submissive women. And a culture where feminism hasn't sunk in its vicious tentacles. Dive into it. Find a woman. Marry her. And stay in that country.

If you bring her here, feminist values will start to sink in to her. You may not believe me. But people adapt. Slowly, but surely. People adapt. You can tell me that our land will never change, but look at what just wind and water has done to the Grand Canyon. Change, over time, is undeniable.

Change is the only constant of life. However, you can try to have that "change" not be so negative. Like Western feminism.

P.S. Don't go to Europe. As a brown guy, who's had his fair share of white women, I say this. White women are for fucking and dumping.

Who does the dumping? That's up to you. If you don't dump the white woman, she'll take all of your shit as punishment, and then dump you.

Hate me if you will. But submissive women, are what you need. And even after she's accepted your neediness, you'll need to re-establish your being alpha. Cuz let's face it, she's a woman.

Title	I turn into a pussy after a month of dating.
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Date	December 18, 2013 9:24 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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