Insecure girls

Whisper · 2018-09-26T03:00:39+00:00

Remember that the goal of negging and teasing is to lower artificially high female self-confidence so that a girl looks up to you and becomes more submissive, which is both sexy to you, and makes you more sexy to her.

If she's already closer to that state, you need to calibrate your teasing accordingly. Don't cease it altogether, but make it gentler, and interleave it with little pieces of encouragement, and with, most of all, dominant language and behaviour: give her things to do, and reward compliance with praise... a little bit like you're training a dog: "Good girl!".

If it is gentle and kind, but would make any listening feminist explode in a flaming ball of rage at its "condescension" and "benevolent sexism", then that's exactly right.

In order to desire you, a girl must see herself as inferior to you, but not so inferior that she fears being spurned or exploited and cast aside. You must learn to adjust her self-esteem higher or lower, moment by moment, to keep an optimal balance.

Lostitink · 2018-09-26T01:52:43+00:00

I think a lot of people try to generalize this situation. I would personally try to build a conversation with a more sexual tone. While not touching her just so she gets my intentions. Then if you can get her to open up about that move in and start the touching and feeling. You could also just try to get inside her head and make her feel more comfortable. Meaning talk about her hopes and dreams and fears. That's always a good place to start, seriously you just need to make her feel better being around you. Every girl is a freak if you can pull it out of them. You just have to make them want it.

UpperRedSide · 2018-09-26T03:25:32+00:00

Here we employ a strong use of push/pull. Your negs should be gentler than they would be when talking to a girl with an ego, and don't forget to show both approval and admiration.

Picture a benevolent employer, who will screen a potential employee in a non-scrutinizing way, showing both approval and admiration when they hear something they like. This is how you deliver your compliments from a position of power, maintaining frame and avoiding coming off as pussy whipped or needy.

Keep the kino going. If she clearly enjoys it, that's all the green lights you need.

In this type of situation, as well as actually elevating her self-esteem a bit, you will have to make most of the moves. Girls like this are always compliant, but never initiate. That isn't a bad sign, just understand that you will have to do the legwork.

inspiredshane · 2018-09-26T15:54:45+00:00

It's a red flag. Low self-esteem and confidence are symptoms of underlying mental health problems. You should ask yourself if you really want to deal with the fallout that comes with it, and whether or not you might be compensating for some mental health issue yourself by chasing after girls like this.

There are plenty of women out there. You don't have to have sex with all of them. And trust me, you shouldn't.

HumbleTrees · 2018-09-26T09:32:39+00:00

Negging is a way of chipping at the armour (over inflated sense of self /ego) so that she feels like you don't view her as above you. This is essential for attraction. If the girl is already shy and submissive and doesn't suffer from an over inflated sense of self, then negging is not as required. Note I say not AS required. Still tease her but do it in a much more playful way, with softer eyes and overall expression. Perhaps touch her while you say this or just after, allowing your kino to comfort and soften the tease a little.

BornShook · 2018-09-26T03:46:10+00:00

Make her comfortable

IcreateMoney · 2018-09-26T01:48:47+00:00

Get them in bed

Title	Insecure girls
Author	Chainega
Upvotes	53
Comments	19
Date	September 26, 2018 12:59 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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