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Sickening lack of compassion by the media for a young man who flew overseas to find love, was rejected, and nearly ended up dead in his grief. "...found unconscious and suffering from hypothermia after falling into the Xu River — presumably to find other fish."

Theophagist

July 9, 2015
119 upvotes
/r/MensRights
http://kron4.com/2015/03/04/chinese-girl-rejects-ohio-teens-affection-after-he-flies-7000-to-hook-up/
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Title Sickening lack of compassion by the media for a young man who flew overseas to find love, was rejected, and nearly ended up dead in his grief. "...found unconscious and suffering from hypothermia after falling into the Xu River — presumably to find other fish."
Author

Theophagist

Upvotes 119
Comments 40
Date July 9, 2015 11:21 AM UTC
(11 years ago)
Subreddit Posted in /r/MensRights
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/3cny77/sickening_lack_of_compassion_by_the_media_for_a/
Archive Link https://theredarchive.com/r/MensRights/sickening-lack-of-compassion-by-the-media-for-a.975852
https://theredarchive.com/post/975852
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Comments

[–]Wargame4life 34 points35 points36 points 11 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

"Today on Oprah: the brave story of the poor young woman who was deceived by an evil heartless internet love cheat, and left for dead in the river after travelling over 7000 miles for what she thought was true love, we tell you how this brave and determined young woman struggled through the heartless manipulating system against her for the sake of love, and how it cost her all her money and almost her life, she is an inspiration to us all, and a warning that when it comes to love, men are heartless monsters"

[–]bobbage 6 points7 points8 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

This was a mentally unstable stalker. There is absolutely no suggestion she led him on or encouraged him in any way, he "found her photos online" and next minute was on a plane to China. She didn't even tell him her name FFS.

I honestly can't imagine anyone except horny teenagers having sympathy for this bozo.

[+]BarneyBent -19 points-18 points-17 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, making totally unrealistic stuff up as an attempt at satire does far more damage than good.

[–]Theophagist[S] 13 points14 points15 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

You're new to the planet earth, yes?

[–]arxndo 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Didn't even occur to me he was serious. Just assumed there was a /s at the end.

[–]BarneyBent 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Sorry, I actually misread the post, I thought it was being sympathetic to the girl in the actual story, not a gender reversal. In my defense, I was drunk and it was 4am in my part of the world.

[–]rottingchrist 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Probably a fan of that talk show. They seem to be out of touch with reality.

[–]kragshot 7 points8 points9 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

What the fuck, son...when he recovers, somebody needs to look this kid up and school him on true knowledge.

This entire scenario ended in "what the fuck."

Poor, dumb kid...followed his heart instead of his head.

[–]BlackMRA-edtastic -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Sounds like Red Pill logic. Screw the aspects compassion men's rights and berate men as losers for having a emotional response like love for a women. Why bother complaining about feminists when this is how Men's Activists treat men.

[–]kragshot 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It's not exactly "red pill," Ed, though my language might have made it sound that way.

But in this case, the kid led with his heart and somehow rationalized that this "grand romantic gesture" of him traveling to China would just wow this girl over and when it fell flat, he went to pieces.

All that I was saying is that somebody needs to talk to the kid and tell him how the world really works and to base more of his choices on practical knowledge.

I mean, c'mon; you don't just do a cold visit on some girl you just met online...that shit is bad on several levels and was a disaster waiting to happen...and it did.

But in defense of the Red Pill; this is the kind of shit that guys do because the media tells them that this is the kind of shit that women go for when in truth, it isn't even close. Part of what makes the Red Pill an appropriate response to the current gender social dynamic is that it breaks men out of that media-induced, hopeless romantic mindset that usually ends with the guy being arrested for stalking, getting creep-shamed, or suffering a disaster like this.

Don't equate my comments for a "lack of compassion." I genuinely feel sorry for the kid and if I could have somehow reached him before he did this, I would have talked him out of it; true shit, Ed.

But in the end, this was a dumb move on his part and it was partly due to him buying into false imagery of romantic gestures.

[–]Theophagist[S] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Wanting to help him avoid this kind of ordeal is compassion.

[–]ashlaaaaay 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

I think this depends on the extent to which she led him on. In any event, the news story was wrong to joke about the incident.

[–]kragshot 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

Yeah...I kind of see that point. But on the converse, how else could they have framed this story? The girl had no idea that he was going to travel halfway across the planet to see him. Furthermore, from what the news story said; it wasn't like they had an actual relationship...they were just acquaintances and he took it farther than it actually was.

I hate to sound "white-knight-ish" but, this was a surprise visit and she was under no obligation to actually see him. Yeah, it was more than a bit dickish for her to not even acknowledge him, but at the same time...we all know about the horror stories about meeting online folks in real life.

[–]ashlaaaaay 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

It sounds that way from the story, but we don't know what actually happened. If she gave him no indication she wanted to see him, then he is definitely in the wrong, but still not deserving of being mocked by a local news outlet.

[–]bobbage 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

There is no indication that she led him on in any way whatsoever.

Authorities in China say an 18-year-old Ohio boy, known only as Pratt, fell in love with a Chinese girl after first finding her photos online. He told police that he didn’t know her real name, the Daily Mail reported.

The boy promised the girl he would visit her but she may not have taken him seriously until he suddenly turned up in Jiangshan, according to police.

The Daily Mail reported that detectives confirmed the teen tried to call the girl several times but was told to leave her alone, and his number was blocked. That’s when he became depressed about the rejection and started drinking.

That is a stalker. A pretty bad one. I don't blame the girl in the least for wanting nothing to do with him.

He didn't even know the girl's name FFS. If a girl doesn't even tell you her name, I think it's a fair bet to say she wasn't leading you on.

[–]Theophagist[S] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

how else could they have framed this story?

Any way they like, while being wary not to make casual jokes about a situation that isn't funny.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

"Fell". More like tried to kill himself.

[+][deleted] 11 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link

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[–]BlackMRA-edtastic 5 points6 points7 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

The lack of compassion for men constitutes a "Men's Rights" issue and clearly too many men have failed to heed the words of Warren Farrel. Try listening to his lectures or reading his book before undermining the very cause he and so many others are fighting for. Calling people stupid for falling in love is inhumane. The guy needed compassion and he shouldn't have to kill himself before we notice that like so many other young men in our societies.

[–]bobbage 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

The guy was a stalker FFS. He "found her photos online" and didn't even know the girl's name.

This is no different from the crazed fan who shows up unannounced on a celebrity's doorstep and declares their undying love. Do you think that should be reciprocated?

[+][deleted] 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

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[–]intensely_human 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

@everybody here: Don't downvote this just because you disagree with it. Argue against it. Use your words, people.

[–]Theophagist[S] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Ahhh the ol' "not a men's rights issue." I haven't been on this sub for 2 years and you haven't changed a bit.

[–]tiqr 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

You're right. People are still posting pointless links and attempting to frame them as "Men's rights issues".

Hopefully we get a handle on the problem in the next 2 years.

[–]Deefry 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Snapshot.

[–]dbtng 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Haha. Pratt fall. :]

... but seriously. Don't feel sorry for stupid.

[–]BlackMRA-edtastic 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

I feel sorry for a young man caught up in waves of emotion he couldn't deal with the same way I would a young women. u/SillyMod recently posted an account of a young man dealing with a mentally unstable women that was his close friend who was taken for a ride by a clearly manipulative individual. Promoting compassion for men is the cause, learn to respect that.

[–]sillymod 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Indeed. Society doesn't have compassion for men. We are default enemy combatants (instead of civilians, like women and children), we are default aggressors, we are default criminals and rapists and child molesters. It is incredibly unfair.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link

Lol I don't feel sorry for this idiot either

[–]BlackMRA-edtastic 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link

You should because compassion or men is what men's rights is about. If you want to be a smug ass try feminism, they seem to like that mentality but drop it soon as a female victim comes along that plays into their narrative. The boy wasn't treated right by that girl and the fact he was a sucker for love only makes him human. She has every right to reject him but that should have been made clear before he flew to china. He could have sobbed himself to sleep at home.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh fuck off. Blindly defending everyone from your gender regardless of their stupidity is the most feminist type behavior you can engage in

[+][deleted] 11 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

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[–]intensely_human 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

I think the issue is the media's treatment of him, not the girl's

[–]bobbage 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Because he's a mentally unstable stalker, FFS.

[–]intensely_human -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

haha! A mentally unstable person, who almost died of hypothermia! lol!

[–]JerkyMcGee 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I don't feel this is a Men's Rights issue. Sure, I feel sorry that the dude was in the dumps, but he wasn't segregated against. He did all of this on his own. Even the hotel showed compassion and let him stay there for free once they heard his story.

[–]Theophagist[S] 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't feel that you people are very intelligent on this sub. Did anyone ever at any point mention of the hotel or his actions? No, I mentioned how the media casually jokes about a young man's harrowing experience.

Compassion for men is so dead that even people on /r/mensrights don't understand the concept.

[–]JerkyMcGee 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

No one has to specifically mention anything for it to be brought up in conversation. Stop being an absolute BITCH about this topic because a bunch of people don't agree with you.

Also not every case involving a man needs compassion. This was a stupid story of a kid doing something boneheaded. Even the editors probably thought it was stupid. Just like a lot of people in this discussion. Media isn't required to have compassion for anyone. Would it be nice? Sure. Am I going to bitch about it? Not in this case.

[–]kragshot 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I disagree. This is a men's rights issue, but not for the reason you claim it is not.

This story is a landmark example of how the socialization of young males by our current society is harmful and why we need to break ourselves out of the gendered mindset that people are insisting that we remain in.

What this young man did is a blind, overt romantic gesture straight out of some freaking teen-steam, YA novel or Teen Disney movie. And this is how we are being socialized, despite the fact that in reality, this is not a "cut and paste" thing that women want.

[–]geniice -2 points-1 points0 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Story source is daily mail. Lack of compassion for a black individual is kinda a given.

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