Dead serious, what do you talk to girls about? Not a troll... I am a hermit.

donkeydodo · 2018-06-11T15:44:44+00:00

Learn to conversate to people overall; ask questions and questions will be returned! It can be about anything, really. For example, if someone says: I like cats, you can ask: What’s so special about them? People’s favorite topic is themselves, so just keep asking questions about What they think/feel/etc about what ever you can imagine

NewBoomAction · 2018-06-11T15:47:56+00:00

I was forced to learn how to small talk working in fast food. Fuck I hated it but it was helpful.

No one gives a fuck about you, k?

Secondly, everyone loves themselves unconditionally. Got it?

Get the person to talk about themselves. Find ANYTHING they say and maybe expand on it. That's it. Don't over complicate something as simple as small talk. That's the key.

And fucking practice but if I have to remind you that then all of this post was a waste. Do something with this info.

You got it brother.

lazlounderhill · 2018-06-11T18:33:37+00:00

You don't talk. You ask questions, and let them talk. They don't want to hear you talk. They want to talk.

chazthundergut · 2018-06-11T19:52:26+00:00

What you talk about doesn't matter.

How she feels when she's around you matters.

Also sex is a great conversation topic, but I wouldn't start off with it right away.

RightNeedsMight · 2018-06-11T17:24:35+00:00

Read day bang

iSwallowedTRP · 2018-06-11T20:12:33+00:00

I could give you a laundry list of topics, as I’m sure you’ve seen online, but these lists are the “fake it” potion of the “fake it till you make it” mantra.

I’ve learned, to generate meaningful conversation, you first need to learn to listen. And not only to the one with which you’re conversing, but also, and even more so, to yourself.

This requires you to be very honest with yourself and be very open about what you’re thinking/feeling. Otherwise, it won’t work.

The process is, first, say something, ANYTHING. Then wait and listen to what the other has to say. Here is the key. While listening to them, at the same time, LISTEN TO YOUR SUB-CONSCIENCE THOUGHTS. This will take some practice.

What’s your sub conscience thinking? What’s your sub conscience feeling? Why does your sub conscience think or feel this way about this information? Is your sub conscience confused about the information?

Articulate this back to the other person. Rinse and repeat.

Good lord, this is how you generate, not only conversation, but deep, meaningful conversation.

JamesTakingNames · 2018-06-11T19:10:13+00:00

You ask a question, they talk about it. Most of the time, they ask you the same question back and you say your piece. If she doesn't ask the question back to you, just elaborate yourself. You just keep the conversation going about what you think, experiences, etc. Don't ask a question and after hearing her response, ask another random question. Dive into the topic but don't stay in the topic for too long or it'll get stale

13thPlayer · 2018-06-11T20:15:48+00:00

You always are thinking of something, and have an inner dialogue constantly playing in your head. Usually we filter and judge it before speaking, but if you open the filter you'll find you have a whole lot more to talk about. You always have something to talk about, just don't judge whether it's a good subject or not.

VikkBlack · Mon Jun 11 20:46:38 2018 UTC

Mostly having fun, teasing, saying random funny stupid things. Do you have a friend that you can talk about nothing for hours?

Also, telling stories (funny, scary, interesting thing happened)

Make sure when you date her the venue is good, if you are not good at a conversation it will help much.

Focus on being relaxd and have fun.

Roadhouse1984 · 2018-06-12T03:00:02+00:00

Start talking to old women at an old folks home. No sexual pressure that will turn you into a temporary sperg unless you are into GMILFs. Get the hang of conversations. Talk to cashiers a little bit beyond how you doin. Like a line or two. Talk to female coworkers if you have any. No sexual stuff and don't shut where you eat. Once you can carry on a normal conversation with other humans then you should be able to do that in a romantic setting. Make it a detective game to find out about her. People love to talk about themselves. Often we will go in like 30 40 minutes and the girl will tell me like....tell me something about yourself...so its pretty easy but you gotta go from 0 to something which is the hardest part.

Avoid politics, religion, feminism and all that. It will just be a race up virtue signaling mountain. All of that aside you two just want to see if you want and can get each other into bed.

Velebit · 2018-06-11T22:19:26+00:00

Hooked up with a Canadian recently. The subjects were her travels, local history, my family history, canadian politics, enivornment and pollution, religion, our phisical activites, her scars, my scars, her sexy features... kissing, how we taste, where we can bang

Nothing was planned, plenty of 3-5 second silences, no kino before the kiss and she didnt laugh to my jokes too much. If a girl wants you she will make everything easy.

Told her she is making Trudeau proud while she was being a good girl. She giggled but almost gagged.

[deleted] · 2018-06-11T17:19:40+00:00

You don’t have to say much to most of them because they will yammer incessantly about their own lives and themselves from sun up to sun down to anyone who will listen.

randarrow · 2018-06-11T17:21:36+00:00

It's hard to talk about nothing, but keep in mind that is what you are doing, so no reason to be afraid.

Talk about the event/place you are at. Talk about your next trip plans, compare notes about the places you have booth been/plan to go to. If going to a party, bring something; whatever you brought is a good conversation piece.

i_pathfinder1 · 2018-06-11T20:42:10+00:00

Anything I feel like talking about. Usually they just listen and if they like you they talk with you and you build ideas about anything. You could literally talk about rocks and girls will like it

[deleted] · 2018-06-12T03:11:42+00:00

Personally, I'll talk about our interests. What she likes and what I like. This will lead you to find out a lot about the girl you're hitting. Meaning, if what you talk about don't interest her and what she talks about doesn't interest you, chances are you shouldn't be bothered to go serious.

We're not trying to look at a perfect match here, but if you are serious with a woman it's really good to have at least something in common to talk about.

batfish55 · 2018-06-12T06:47:51+00:00

I was going to say that you've very little in common with any female. You should be letting her do the talking. Let her hamster define who you are through what you're not saying. Every word you say is another chance for you to fuck it up and give her an excuse to not fuck you.

After your edit....if you're looking to talk about random shit, just talk about random shit. Something in context would make sense / be less creepy. I you meet a chick at starbucks and start talking about cars, yea, that's weird. If you spot her at walmart, express an opinion about a product she's looking at right now. If she's open, she'll start blabbering. That's your cue to say, "yea, uh huh..." If she's not, she'll give you a look that says who the fuck are you and why are you talking to me.

kyzen142 · 2018-06-12T16:41:33+00:00

You are afraid. I have always had this problem like what do I talk about? I am always running of things to say but then I found out why. It's because you are nervous when there is tension in a social interaction ur brain shuts down because it preceives the interaction as danger so u get this urge to pull away and/or not to say something foolish. My advice is that step into tension and be bold speak your mind regardless of what her reaction might be. When talking to girls don't think pay attention to the feeling you are feeling at the moment make sure you feel the right emotions like confidence, courage, boldness, relaxed and the right things to say will just flow.

rayrayray1234 · 2018-06-11T15:27:46+00:00

Honestly, we don’t talk about much. Almost nothing in common. We do fuck a lot tho , and sometimes share nice experiences together

redhawkes · 2018-06-11T20:04:54+00:00

I’m talking about a random conversation.

Non-serious low-challenge lowest-common-denominator social banter.

Basically, erase every intellectual, nerdy, information-heavy thought from your head, and concentrate on the here-and-now.

That's how you game too, just turning the vibe more sexual and employ kino. Stop giving a fuck (OI) and focus on the here and now, then start from there.

The most important thing is chrisma, meaning you make people feel good around you, and keeping the talk in the light playful way. That's it really.

All summarized is not being autistic.

[deleted] · 2018-06-11T17:54:21+00:00

Learn to be curious. Ask questions and then ask questions to their answers. You can’t run out of material to talk about with a woman. They will talk and open up to you very easily if you show genuine interest. The irony is that they will talk so much that they will enjoy hanging out with you and you become a good conversationalist to them even though they’re the one talking. I do this all the time with my wife. We have very little in common other than enjoying each other’s company.

Title	Dead serious, what do you talk to girls about? Not a troll... I am a hermit.
Author	gysman1710
Upvotes	46
Comments	56
Date	June 11, 2018 3:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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