Are there any side effects to never having a girlfriend/relationship as a man getting older.

ApprehensiveMusic351 · 2023-06-20T19:48:42+00:00

I'm in my 40's and never had a romantic relationship (absolutely pathetic I know). But if you saw what I looked like you understand why. Not autistic, 5'9" just bad luck. Not going to lie it hurts and I have had depression and anxiety since high school. At some point around my early 30's I just accepted it because that's all I could do.

RoundCollection4196 · 2023-06-21T11:06:09+00:00

It might feel stupid to be feeling depressed over not having a gf but in reality it is completely normal to feel like that because it's basically a central pillar of being a human. Your body is predisposed to procreate so you will constantly be reminded of it.

The worst part is just not having anyone to do anything with.

Also failing to do something that 99% of people can do is just depressing.

mewbestpokeman · 2023-06-21T05:12:23+00:00

Same here, 28M inkwell. Other side effects include

Not being able to make even male friends IRL because 1. they will discuss dating and relationships at some point which leads to very uncomfortable conversations and 2. they prefer to spend time with their partners or other couples so they will always be "busy".
Getting less respect from everyone when they find out you're a loser. You can't even hide it because being an adult inkwell means you didn't have proper psycho-social development which normies can sniff out from a mile away. I know everyone at work knows I'm inkwell because when they discuss dating and relationships they never ask me anything.

Comfortable-Air-2708 · 2023-06-21T06:12:10+00:00

Yes, same here. Pay attention, and you will see that every person who says that being alone isn't so bad has at least once in their lives kissed or dated a girl before. I haven't done any of these.

Stunning-Spirit5275 · 2023-06-20T22:32:15+00:00

"you are not your job, you are not you bank account. You are not your fucking khakis. You are the all singing all dancing crap of the world"

Peacesquad · 2023-06-21T00:10:14+00:00

Sure socially inept like me

submissivefag132 · 2023-06-21T14:32:46+00:00

I’m 23, so I still have a ways to go.

Honestly it is just really frustrating. I really do try, I have been exercising every day, I am about to get a degree that has pretty good earning potential, doing an internship rn, I do well in school, I am always trying to learn new things and have several hobbies that I do every day.

I have even been told I am good looking, and I did believe it for some time, but definitely not anymore.

I just feel lonely, frustrated, isolated, and I feel like there is nothing I can do which breeds anger and bitterness.

I have wanted a girlfriend for my entire life. Like even since I was 2, my mother has been such a prominent figure in my life and it made me respect and admire women and want one of my own who I could grow a relationship with and take Care of and give my all.

Unfortunately women are not worth giving your all to anymore, you will just be taken advantage of, and there is no woman who is interested in me anyways.

I am becoming more numb thankfully. If I didn’t think about women and my Failings with them so much life would be so much better

I try so hard not to think about it, but I am as hopeless if a hopeless romantic as you could ever find. It honestly rules my life

H8beingmale · 2023-06-22T09:29:34+00:00

i think for many guys, men, who don't have their first girlfriend until late in life, depends on the guy, they feel forever permanently damaged mentally and emotionally, scarred, sad, depressed, and bitter over their lost youth, that their youth was stolen from them

thotswillthot · 2023-06-23T13:02:33+00:00

Yup blk ppl are 16 % of the United States and blk men women so terrible a huge amount are dating out, 50% of blk men are childless 😂 dating is a joke unless you’re into being cucked

jobejac · 2023-06-20T20:38:18+00:00

One thing I can say is that it happens, doesn't mean you're missing out. If I was you, I'd focus on my health, family, and keep striving to be the best you. Relationships and marriage are not important. The only thing that is important is your freedom, peace, and sanity that keeps you happy.

As for dating, I got no advice other than its better to be single. Dont ever compromise your integrity over one. Always stay true to you!

zyex12 · 2023-06-20T19:39:14+00:00

Aye it’s tough being lonely it’s never easy and it can make it feel like what’s the point. However u don’t have to be alone forever I mean ur 26 still really young and have tons of time to find someone right for you. Dating is tough it is and it won’t be easy even when u do finally find someone right for you. It can end badly and it can even end badly the first few times but in all those bad parts you’ll learn more about yourself and better yourself overtime. For right now I’d suggest working on yourself yea ik it’s annoying and sounds dumb but even if it doesn’t work right away for finding someone what’s the harm the only consequence is ur a better person than you were yesterday. Finding people who fit ur circle or ur personality can be tough but with millions of people out there statistically there’s plenty. One thing that can help is being careful with falling into the incel groups or radical redpill groups cause then it can keep u stuck there and can lead to some resentment towards women which is unhealthy same with any radical blue pill kind of thinking. Don’t lose hope man even if it’s a little hope just keep it going and trying to be the best person u can be cause there will be more to life than what a relationship can bring u and once u can be happy with ur life and add a relationship to it then it’ll blossom into something much better I wish all the best to you man I’m in a similar lonely boat rn although I’ve had relationships just been a bit of a single season for me

FortniteAbobus · 2023-06-21T03:30:43+00:00

Save money. Can fart.

ErrprMachjne1 · 2023-06-21T14:19:55+00:00

Nah man it's totally fine. We all just cope in different ways but I think it's ultimately perfectly healthy.

Now put on the cat ears and say "meow", I'm coming over.

Jade0823 · 2023-06-21T14:51:56+00:00

Where are all these single men?!

Y’all are aware that there are women who feel the exact same. Like it can’t be this hard to meet someone.

What is the qualifier that marks us non desirable?

subhumannpc · 2023-06-27T20:46:45+00:00

50 year old KHHV, my life is a living death. I either feel nothing or fits of overwhelming sadness/rage. Lovelessness and loneliness has hollowed me out. I'm a husk. Never any interest from the opposite sex. Way too late now. I'd delete myself but I lack the courage. Ugliness, shyness, Low IQ fucked me over. I mean you can survive, you have to try and put as much of your soul into deep freeze as you can, but tiny things can still trigger this horrible grief - seeing a couple holding hands, something as trivial as that. Once you miss certain milestones you're soon wandering in the wilderness, life is brutal.

Title	Are there any side effects to never having a girlfriend/relationship as a man getting older.
Author	SheepyTLDR
Upvotes	21
Comments	73
Date	June 20, 2023 7:24 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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