Life is Bleak

EugeneCezanne · 2023-09-08T23:04:38+00:00

I’m an average looking guy.

Every weekend I go out a lot. So, like clockwork, every weekend I'm inclined to come here and point out that I see average guys with girls every night.

I don’t want to be the guy that girls settle with because they’re lonely.

Then get off this sub and meet women. This sub will tell you that's the only thing women will ever be thinking about you. A woman who decides to date you might tell you something different. THEN you can actually decide who to believe.

Complexity777 · 2023-09-08T09:37:21+00:00

Don’t worry man, we all fall short before the glory of god.

Whatever happens in life remember this isn’t the end, it’s just our current experience.

TommySildon91 · 2023-09-08T14:16:53+00:00

I would encourage you to stop talking to women forever. It's the only truth that can save your life.You're done just like most of us just accept it and drink alcohol (like me) until one day you die

browsing8 · 2023-09-08T16:36:23+00:00

I tried tinder and had a lot of matches in areas outside of the US(in the US there were like 20 or so but most didn’t engage when I messaged)with many girls messaging me first, but I quickly realized I’m perceived as relationship material rather than casual sex material. Doesn’t help that I’m not super dimorphic, shorter than 6’2”, and don’t have an 8 inch penis.

Relationships just feel exhausting and draining at this point, almost to the point of inducing mental turmoil. You are expected to be an emotional crutch and entertain your partner while you are scorned for opening up or wanting to discuss your own problems, insecurities etc. all while u know other guys were just fwb with her and met up to have sex, she said and did things with them she won’t do with u etc.

With the girl I’m dating now, we were at least honest with each other and I know she’s way more experienced than I am despite being like 3 years younger. Im also treated worse than many previous guys in the sense that more is expected of me and less of her. That’s just life I guess but it’s depressing and stressful. Relationships just become imbalanced and transactional with both parties settling for the best they can get but being deeply unhappy.

Like most guys these days, I often fantasize about being 6’3, 6’4” with a masculine robust frame, dimorphic strikingly handsome face, and a nice 8.5x5.9 penis.

AnyIntroduction3288 · 2023-09-08T16:32:49+00:00

maybe you should go to one of those singles events you turn your nose up at.

sheeshkoi · 2023-09-08T09:24:06+00:00

> dating apps

> I already know that I am unattractive

Freeman_Goldshonnie · 2023-09-08T05:10:32+00:00

You have to tell yourself to stop being a bitch, get your shit together and keep grinding. I know guys who retarded incels would say it's over for, but they still have gfs because they tried. If you don't have luck on dating apps, ditch them.

Go out when you can afford it, approach women you think look pretty, etc. And the sooner you start doing this the sooner you're gonna get yourself out of this pit of shit you've dug yourself into.

EugeneCezanne · 2023-09-08T14:39:17+00:00

Be honest, why should a woman you like like you back? What is it about you, specifically, she should want?

Economy-House171 · 2023-09-08T11:16:43+00:00

If you know your mid why the hell are you using dating apps? 💀 dating apps are known to be horrific for men and newsflash the real world isn't anything like dating apps. If you are average you can find another average women and will have a much higher chance of success if you respectfully approach a women in your league in real life.

Zabadoodude · 2023-09-08T04:39:03+00:00

If you're actually average you're fine. A bit of lifting and dressing nice will make you above average. You won't get women chasing after you but it's not unlikely you will find an average woman that will genuinely be attracted to you.

A lot of people describe themselves as average, but are actually way below. If your <5'8: you're not average. If you're autistic: you're not average

RopeorDope1 · 2023-09-08T04:33:33+00:00

You're going to need to assess a few things.

Are you average or are you unattractive? Because most people of the world fall in the middle and they're not unattractive. A good portion still manage to pair off and find someone.

I don’t want to be the guy that girls settle with because they’re lonely. I want to be a guy that women actually desire, but that is not possible.

It is not possible due to?

Also the statement of Maslow is a bit more complicated and a lot of people get that part wrong: "Maslow (1943) initially stated that individuals must satisfy lower-level deficit needs before progressing to meet higher-level growth needs. However, he later clarified that satisfaction of a need is not an “all-or-none” phenomenon, admitting that his earlier statements may have given “the false impression that a need must be satisfied 100 percent before the next need emerges” (1987, p. 69)."

https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html#:~:text=From%20the%20bottom%20of%20the,can%20attend%20to%20higher%20needs.

Also, maybe we're looking at different pyramids, but love and belonging are the third category when I'm looking at it.

TermAggravating8043 · 2023-09-08T06:16:04+00:00

Why aren’t you going out with real people exactly? You’d have more luck than online

Whiskeyjack1982 · 2023-09-08T23:33:51+00:00

Try geomaxxing.

Go to Southeast Asia.

Title	Life is Bleak
Author	Accomplished-Idea420
Upvotes	21
Comments	64
Date	September 8, 2023 4:12 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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maybe you should go to one of those singles events you turn your nose up at.