Has anyone else noticed the phenomenon where feminists will simultaneously accuse you of not being able to attract a partner because you are too bitter and angry but then simultaneously claim that you are only being a dick on the internet and would never actually behave that way IRL?

So, which is it? Are we dealing with schrodinger's incels or, more likely, are feminists doing what they do best; lying and manipulating in a desperate attempt to have some kind of control and influence over men's perceptions?