Why women hate incels

First of all, as a woman: hate is quite a strong word - we just arent gonna date anyone who doesn't like us, and that is the feeling you get from incels. Especially when you say you have unsatisfied sexual life and blame it on us: we are human beings, not tools for your sexual satisfaction and putting so much pressure on sex takes all the fun and romance from dating you. Personally, I don't hate incels - I just think they are stupid (because why would you bitch about women while you want to have a relationship with one of them, maybe you should think twice about your sexual orientation), dangerous (because of mass shootings etc) and sad.

I have never met an incel with interesting personality f.ex. someone who has ambitions outside living tamagotchi life which consist of eating, working and sleeping. I feel like if you actually developed nice hobby, spend quality time with friends and family, read some books, watch a movie and got outside of women-hating-bubble you could develop a fullfilling life and sooner or later someone would like to be a part of it (quite probably many people and you would be the one choosing from many options).

I also feel that some of you just need therapy to go through issues that you didn't manage to solve yourself because of the patriarchal upbringing. And while as a woman I don't have a problem with helping my partner to go through hard times I need to feel that we both do the job that is required to have a better, more fulfilling life. I want to be your partner: not mum, not maid, not therapist, just someone who loves you and is being loved. You can't live a miserable life hating yourself and others, waiting for a girl that is going to change everything for you.

There is also a huge group of intelligent succesfull and beautiful women that are incels and somehow they don't blame their sexual frustration on men and don't bitch about men online. Some of them are virgins and yet you act like sex is something that should be given casually to you just because you said so while you can't offer respect and minimum interest in what goes through our minds. I also feel that something that is normal for us is a huge tragedy for you - my brother could go into incel pipeline because he haven't had sex with another woman since his last relationship... But he uses his brain and he knows that the fact he doesn't have any relationship for 2 or 3 years and nothing goes out of dating doesn't mean that women don't want to have sex with him - it's just because feelings are not mutual, it's wrong person, wrong time etc. I also have been lonely between my relationships and I feel like incels are just overdramatic.

I actually feel sorry for you because I know that your hate towards women is created by your loneliness and frustration and I am sure that there are a lot of men who just went into incel pipeline because they looked for a place of belonging but feeling sorry for anyone will neither make me want to have a relationship with them nor go to bed with them, especially knowing that there is a huge hatred towards me and other women.