my gf is a feminist

2022-04-28T12:40:47+00:00

There won't be anything you can do or say. If she's in that cult and already drank that Koolaid, your best bet is to run for the hills.

No touch, no talk, no eye contact as Cesar Milan says. You'll be much happier when ya find someone who also has a distaste for cults.

AffectionateRun5053 · 2022-04-28T14:01:38+00:00

Major red flag. Depends what kind of feminist? Some are lovely and honest and understanding.

But if it’s the type to argue about everything and constantly try to make you feel bad for being Male then there’s probably no way you can reverse the 10+ years of heavy indoctrination

Blueglubglubfish · 2022-04-28T11:00:58+00:00

dump her

sXff3r · 2022-04-28T12:02:41+00:00

bro talk it out with her, try to put forward the views you have and see any chance of understanding or improvement.

If no, then leave bro.

2022-04-28T12:47:02+00:00

Just leave. You're gonna be part of the problem one way or another.

AirSailer · 2022-04-28T15:09:22+00:00

As someone who was married to a feminist I can tell you with 100% certainty that if you are not a feminist (and you don't plan on becoming one) then you are 100% incompatible with her. There is no tolerance in feminism for anyone who does not support feminism, so you are in a relationship with someone who has no tolerance for your viewpoints.

Her idiology will eventually require that you give up your masculine qualities and adopt behaviors that in no way benefit you and are solely intended for her benefit. Be aware that this will happen under the guise of making her more attracted to you when in reality she will become less attracted to you since she, as a feminist, is incapable of reconciling her disdain of masculinity with her physical desire for a masculine mate. Eventually she will blame her lack of desire on you and will step out on your relationship.

Regardless of your level of shared idiology you can expect to become the sole source of all of her insecurities, perceived injustices, and inadequacies... Eventually she will project on YOU all the perceived injustices that women everywhere have to "endure". She will then resent you for that, but not until you get married and she locks you into paying her court-ordered free income via the family court system.

Feminists are incapable of normal intimate human relationships, I advise you to GTFO now.

KMS__Scharnhorst · 2022-04-28T10:54:13+00:00

END IT

Radiant_Original6968 · 2022-04-28T11:05:36+00:00

Leave her

Far-Pitch-2092 · 2022-04-28T13:09:10+00:00

try to explain your views to her so she can understand you and if this doesn't help leave her

2022-04-28T13:28:28+00:00

SnooRegrets1438 · 2022-04-28T13:50:20+00:00

Leave her ASAP

pnoecker · 2022-04-28T13:15:56+00:00

External-Hedgehog810 · 2022-04-28T11:45:15+00:00

Annoy her with your anti feminist views.

nathanv70 · 2022-04-28T13:11:09+00:00

Yowazzuplol · 2022-04-28T14:06:32+00:00

Blocking her on all social media is always an option

death_ray_mx · 2022-04-28T15:01:50+00:00

Pretty easy get rid of her . Let her know why it won't go anywhere

Distinct-Long-624 · 2022-04-28T12:35:30+00:00

As a non feminist woman I'm telling you: RUN

HeLst3n1 · 2022-04-28T13:24:27+00:00

I've never been in a relationship before, but I think if you have really different pov's, you should just break up, it's not gonna work out, save your time and nerves

sgt_oddball_17 · 2022-04-28T15:19:14+00:00

Get a new girlfriend.

AmbassadorAny1235 · 2022-04-28T14:02:06+00:00

If you agree with her...you are a male monster If you disagree...you are a male monster You cant win!

I put my logical thinking above all things... If you trade that for someone...youre gonna regret it

archit1405 · 2022-04-28T14:07:57+00:00

Sooner or later it is going to exaggerate. Try to keep such sensitive topics away, otherwise you gotta move

2022-04-28T14:33:42+00:00

Is she of the man hating ones or just misguided bitter easily triggered allegedly egalitarian?

2022-04-28T14:41:54+00:00

Yeah, have to agree - leave. Speaking for myself, for my own well being, I wouldn’t be able to tolerate that.

asura227 · 2022-04-28T20:48:12+00:00

You should break up with her. I understand the prospect must seem horrible. However, it's a matter of choose to take your lumps up front. Because if you get em on the back end, it will 10,000 times worse. Feminists are the antithesis of men. She is incapable of caring about you because on the fundamental it goes against that false religion. RUN, and if you look back, you're as good as a pillar of salt.

EricAllonde · 2022-04-28T13:15:32+00:00

Life's too short to date a feminist.

AffectionateRun5053 · 2022-04-28T17:40:47+00:00

Run!... run fast run far just run... and record on your way out because you can never be to careful

GltyUntlPrvnInncnt · 2022-04-28T18:04:43+00:00

Run for the hills man. Save yourself.

No-Payment-6534 · 2022-04-28T19:51:01+00:00

Why bother It's girl friend not wife A feminist can't be loved

emireymarBv · 2022-04-29T13:54:58+00:00

Leave

casra888 · 2022-04-28T16:46:35+00:00

Dump her now!

Ezekias1337 · 2022-04-28T17:00:44+00:00

Just leave her, it's not going to turn out well for you.

rawanvsevil · 2022-04-28T22:58:31+00:00

Show her this https://youtu.be/_GGwfGSHJCY

It changed me

maxlvb · 2022-04-29T07:13:35+00:00

Tell her she's made you go MGTOW, and leave as fast as you can...

Seriously, why is she still 'girl friend?'

Men need feminism like bicycles need fish.

GroundbreakingFlow98 · 2022-04-29T10:56:59+00:00

Play her The Red Pill to show you understand, then look surprised and say things like “wow so there’s another side to this”. Or leave. Don’t marry or buy a house together.

2022-04-29T19:37:33+00:00

just brake up if she is actually a feminist, no need to put yourself danger over something like that

UnfurtletDawn · 2022-04-28T14:39:04+00:00

Ask her for sources.

You know stuff like only women face sexual assaults and domestic violence only.

Then you can show her statistics from CDC

https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/intimatepartnerviolence/men-ipvsvandstalking.html

And this also shows that men are not the one who mainly sexually assaults men.

That toxic masculinity stuff. Suicide because they don't ask for help.

https://documents.manchester.ac.uk/display.aspx?DocID=55305

Almost all (91%) middle-aged men had been in contact with at least one frontline service or agency.

But you cannot go in defensively. Just go and ask hey I thought that men die because of suicide due to toxic masculinity resulting in not asking for help.

But I stumbled upon this that shows they do ask for help.

thatspositive · 2022-04-28T11:04:44+00:00

Listen to her thoughts and be open to having a discussion with her, and hopefully she will do the same

Federal_Locksmith457 · 2022-04-28T11:54:13+00:00

I wanna tell her to end it considering you are going to reddit for relationship advice, espically here

whittlingman · 2022-04-28T15:24:22+00:00

Soooo vague

Like did you demand she make you dinner and she said no?

Or is she just going on and on about how women are the bestest ever and the patriarchy is trying to keep women down and your part of the problem and is constantly verbally abusing you?

What’s the actual issue here that you’re experiencing?

ShiverMeTimbersLad · 2022-04-28T21:30:37+00:00

Bro that pussy ain't worth it.

Ok_Kaleidoscope2340 · 2022-04-28T15:32:28+00:00

Totally depends on her, if she is that screaming , hair coloured feminist as we expect , then she is bad news. If she is just a gender equality activist , then it's fine.

badprawn · 2022-04-28T15:36:51+00:00

Finish her

omfg-srin · 2022-04-28T17:19:16+00:00

Leave. I am a woman, and I used to be in a relationship with a radfem woman. When our views began to differ and I started to explore issues on men's rights (my best friend was a victim of domestic abuse, but nobody believed him, until he chose to take matters into his own hands and leave permanently), the issues that affect the transgender community (my sister is a transwoman), and the lack of intersectionality of the current-day 'feminist' movement, things turned nasty. No amount of reasoning can convince a fanatic, and if she IS that sort of a person and no degree of discussion makes her even at least take a fair middle-ground about things, it's time to leave.

2022-04-28T22:19:54+00:00

You are a black man. Your girlfriend is a White supremacist.

There's your answer.

DefiantDepth8932 · 2022-04-29T02:59:04+00:00

If she has as much respect for the Men's Rights Movement as she does for feminism then it's fine. Otherwise she's sexist and you're not compatible with her

2022-04-28T16:02:20+00:00

Talk with her, not with Reddit. Communication is important in a relationship, for the love of god just please please talk with her instead of listening to reddit

2022-04-28T15:44:54+00:00

Make her watch "responding to stupid feminist questions" on youtube

Wiaugusto · 2022-04-28T17:34:35+00:00

Depends on what type of feminist some are pretty open to debate and understanding and they do think in equalness and some other are just misandrists who hide as a feminist (major part of Reddit feminist lol) also is she making it part of her personality or she is the same as always but with new knowledge? (If she is starting to make her personality it could be an issue tbh)

LinkCandid6104 · 2022-04-28T19:34:02+00:00

Simply leave her alone …or start asking her questions about if she had a son and he was put into some shit situations by women how she would react if she says anything like trying to blame her son when he did nothing wrong LEAVE HER BREAK UP IMMEDIATELY those types are not the types u wanna keep they will almost always be abusive in some way to you or ur kids

PlayfulLawyer · 2022-04-28T22:03:24+00:00

Sorry, if it's becoming a hindrance you should talk to her and tell her to chill out, best thing to do might be to just leave though but your life🤷‍♂️

Potato-with-guns · 2022-04-30T05:10:14+00:00

Depending on how reasonable she is you can take one of two paths, either constantly gently remind them of where they are wrong in their feminist preconceptions, causing them to question their ideals until ultimately they come to reject the feminist ideal

Or just break up with her, preferably with a different made up reason.

CRobinsFly · 2022-04-28T17:20:09+00:00

Pump and dump, dont get baby trapped.

SAMMYYYTEEH · 2022-04-28T16:16:01+00:00

If you genuinely like her, try to talk her out of it and show her why she shouldn't have such a mindset in a modern world

That or if you don't actually like her it's better just to leave her and find a new one, and even tho i know it's hard to get a new one, it's better to be with a feminist who always babbles about being "oppressed" by the Patriarchy and lose your mental stability

TheWikstrom · 2022-04-28T11:28:33+00:00

As someone from outside the subreddit and a third party, my opinion is that you just become a feminist yourself. I get that all your you and all your friends here make it out to be some sort of primordial evil or something, but it really is not that bad

2022-04-28T16:36:44+00:00

Breakup, I don’t think it’s worth dealing with. But it’s your decisions. Don’t listen to redditors lol

scarboroughwa · 2022-04-29T02:12:07+00:00

What should you say?

Bye bye.

kinhk · 2022-05-01T07:32:05+00:00

korega_requiemu_da94 · 2022-05-02T22:31:15+00:00

There are many fish in the sea

Title	my gf is a feminist
Author	yournftmaker
Upvotes	54
Comments	80
Date	April 28, 2022 7:30 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/AntiFeminists
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