She called it quits after 6.5 years on Monday. We had our ups and downs but to me it was overwhelmingly positive. There were some signs but we never really talked about it because she shut down most of the time. When I asked if we could do counseling or if there was anything I could do to keep us together she said, "No." In that moment I knew she had been thinking about it for awhile but it was over. I just wish we talked more.

I'm absolutely gutted about it and had to call off work for the last 2 days because I'm not okay and I deal with people all day for work. As I lay in bed now I'm absolutely dreading the idea of working today and strongly contemplating calling off again. Of course, I'll have to work at some point when the random crying stops. I know there's no definitive timeline and everyone is different but when did you become functional again?

I've already started to look for a therapist if that helps.

Edit: Thank you all for the sharing and the support. Like all of you I never thought I would find myself in this position even if it's a common one. I know the road will be long and hard so apologies if I make future posts with just how shitty things are lol.