Hi all, In from Sydney, Australia. Married 8 years with a darling 3yo daughter.

We recently separated, and I think there is no going back. I love her, but our personalities are incompatible. I am trying to be amicable, but stbx is stubborn, and picking fights over everything I say and do. She’s recently raised the desire of bringing our daughter back to her home country so her family can help raise her.

This terrifies me.

Her home country is not part of The Hague convention, so once they’re gone, I will have no recourse. I don’t know what else to do other than become a doormat to her every whim for a few years until my daughter is old enough to realise how toxic things are. I will be more comfortable with international travel if our daughter was at the age she could use technologies, so atleast she could contact me for help if something did arise.

Would love to hear anyone else’s experiences on this, and how you worked through it.