This is my first post, so take it easy on me.. So.. with my wife 10 years, married 5. 2 sons. I love her and my sons to death. She gave me a 2 week notice mid October she was moving out.. everything is in my name. Since everything has been very positive. No arguments or conflict AFTER I was out of the denial stage and thinking I could talk her into staying when she had clearly (now I realize this) already decided. Sex has always been an issue.. wasn’t always like that.. she used to give it up all the time.. worship me.. give me BJs. Now I realize that due to my girth that had to be very uncomfortable.. if she would have just told me that it was too big and it hurt her, I’d have never asked her again.. going 2-3 months without has drained me for a couple years.. I was only with 1 other woman before her. She never told me how many she had. Didn’t matter. I know the one girl I was with before her was taller than me, and was a big framed girl.. and NOW I remember her being kind of shocked at what I had.. but growing up watching porn I always assumed my member was small. Or small average.. I research everything.. so I’m not sure how I arrived at the site but I found a real objective study on penis size.. I had had a few drinks and I was curious how I would stack up.. long story short.. I was ABOVE the 90th percentile in penis size.. actually at or above 95th.. I really didn’t believe it.. I am still in shock kind of.. my wife was always shy on compliments.. almost like she was afraid if she complimented me too much I would leave her.. she never said I was too small.. and I do remember some encounters where she was sore for a while.. but that just made me feel like I did my job. Now I’m wondering if she wanted a big one.. and got it.. and it was too much.. she thought she would get used to it, but never did.. there were lots of other factors, not just sex.. but I’m wondering if this was an issue.. maybe it was painful for her and she never wanted to tell me.. all I know is I still want my family back. I’m wondering about addressing my findings with her directly and just saying “is this why we rarely had sex?”. On the other hand I want to go Effing wild.. I’ve only been with 2 women and at 36 I found out I have a rig to get any job done.. I can’t ask my friends about this. They wouldn’t believe me.. it’s the truth though.. I measured it 4 times or more because I didn’t believe it.. I’m only 5 ft 8 and my wife is 4ft 11. Do I tell her directly? Or bring it up directly?