Sorry for the long post. Not sure how to process this. Ex filed a year ago, both 41. 2 kids 11 and 7. She had checked out for years and I was basically a wallet and felt like a single dad. She has a teaching degree but refused to work for years. She filed after we discussed divorce. She wanted to separate but me to continue supporting everyone without any plan on working things out. Temporary order (WA) is $2k alimony and about $500 child support a month. I make about $100k and barely get by without digging into savings month to month with rent and very basic expenses. She makes about $50K but could get a better teaching job if she wanted to for $60-$70k.

I get the court default of every other weekend and alternating weeks in summer. I am also always on call for when something comes up and I get more time with the kids. I want 50/50, but she is still fighting it.

For court she wants $3k support now ($1k more), 100% of the house, same kid schedule and 60/40 of other assets. 12 year marriage, cohabitation in another state for a few years without common law marriage. Should be 3-4 years of support she is asking for 10. Almost the same duration as the marriage.

I just feel like I will get screwed here. Why would she be so aggressive if it would be seen as completely unreasonable by the judge? 36% of every dollar I make will subsidize her for the next 10 years?

I tried hanging in there for the kids for years. I wish I had divorced years ago. It's not worth trying to make it work- I was the only one trying. Let alone getting married at all these days.