Crazy wife

TheConjugalVisit · 2026-02-20T16:18:37+00:00

Mine was financially abusive (stole credit cards) , physically abusive (pushed me, punched me, threw my head into the wall), verbally abusive (screamed and yelled all the damn time) and would also hide alcohol around the house and as an alcoholic myself I would find her passed out the couch all the time with booze next to her. She would get pissed when I found it and drank it even when I begged her not to bring it into the house.

Complete psychopath.

ComprehensiveWork451 · 2026-02-20T14:32:50+00:00

Yup, she'll lie about being abused (physically / emotionally / verbally) and there's no consequence whatsoever, be prepared for that bullshit.

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-02-20T13:28:54+00:00

Every man should be concerned about this when divorcing. Because in a she-said he-said situation, women will be believed over men. We have decades of The Duluth Model to thank for that.

Get your plan together before you ever let her know you're divorcing:

Secure heirloom or sentimental items off-site so they don't go "missing".
Collect all financial records, including hers.
Implement financial austerity. Get rid of any big ticket items before divorcing that you aren't keeping. Sell that boat, motorcycle, camper or project car. Ditch any subscriptions you don't want to be paying for during divorce.
If she's not working, get her working. This dovetails with #3 when she asks you why you cancelled $200/month in streaming/cable/meal services.
Stop giving her money. She can pay for her mobile phone she spends all day scrolling Instagram on. You do the grocery shopping. You buy stuff for the kids. You're going to be doing these things after divorce anyway.
If you have joint banking and credit card accounts, open ones in your name only. Start depositing your paycheck to the account only you have access to. Right before you file for divorce, you freeze the joint credit card accounts so she can't go on a shopping spree.
If you have kids, make sure the status quo favors you. If you want 50% parenting time after divorce, then make sure you've got it before divorce. Status quo is the greatest bias of the court.

PostTrenchesDad · 2026-02-20T07:30:28+00:00

Yep. You're not alone.

Best decision I ever made though was to get out. If you're waiting for a sign and that's all that it will take consider this is it.

She claimed I was homophobic part way through. We opened our marriage versus immediately ending it when she wanted to explore relationships with women.

She claimed physical abuse after no mention of it during mediation intake, initial filing or first 3 responses.

That gives you an idea. I got lucky she didn't time them well. I know others who their ex lied about abuse at the beginning and it has made their lives so much harder. The truth does eventually come out, but it's the inbetween part that is rough.

Title	Crazy wife
Author	Future-Fan-7732
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	February 20, 2026 2:18 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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