Curious

regertsrus · 2024-12-31T19:06:33+00:00

I found that asking what's the meaning of life causes loneliness while knowing how to put meaning into the lives of people removes loneliness. I guess my solution was just to keep busy. Finding love and trust again after having to leave my kids and my home to a compulsive and pathological liar, helped a tonne also. It hasn't been easy with the lies continuing constantly 3 years later. Realizing that the court system is a farce designed for men to fail and finding proof of exactly that, has allowed me to remove the negative influence of my stbx and the legal system. No agents of state will rent space in my head any longer. All problems are handled with my kids directly. The lies and deceits are addressed with kids directly. I ignore the courts mandate to coparent freely and generally disregard their rubric for being a good parent. I know these people are completely useless because if they had any use, they would have stopped the lies by now. The lies the judge knows are constant yet they do nothing to stop them beyond some words. So thats my story. Living it easy knowing the court system is a farce predicated on parting me with my money by making me believe I might lose my kids. I took away their power to do so by telling the kids everything and all the truth they already suspected. My relationship with them has never been better as a result and they are happier than ever knowing I stand tall and unafraid of the judge, the lawyer, any CPS agent, the child psych . None of these people bother me and I sleep like a rock

ExaminationKlutzy194 · 2024-12-27T13:22:40+00:00

Things are up and down. I had a low point the other day. Now I feel like I’m on the upswing. Like floating in the ocean or something.

My buddy and I keep quoting a line from Platoon to each other:

“Keep your powder dry and the world will turn.”

her_dog_is_odd · 2024-12-27T02:47:40+00:00

Lots of people will tell you to go to the gym, make hobbies, etc but it really just comes down to being comfortable being on your own (at least, for now).

Being alone is a statement of fact. Loneliness is a state of mind.

I found that I would [engage in hobby], then hang out with friends, and then as soon as I got home it was already [lonely]. When you’re used to constant togetherness, the act of being alone can be startling. For me, it was reading that helped. Just gotta find the thing that helps shut off your brain.

Slowloris81 · 2024-12-27T02:37:20+00:00

I’ve forced myself to get out there and form new connections. A romantic one is just a part of it but more important is making new friends, building or rebuilding old friendships, and strengthening ties with family. It takes effort and time but it’s made a huge difference in the long run.

Title	Curious
Author	Nervous_Doughnut8703
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	December 27, 2024 1:58 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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