Had one of the most cruel divorces I’ve read about. Complete cut off, left in debt, but still found a way to land on my feet. I don’t think about my ex unless I encounter a situation that she would have complained about and realize it doesn’t bother me.

Anyways, met a girl that I really like and most importantly has a quality that my ex never had: “The ability to effectively communicate”. It’s like a breath of fresh air and I’m insecure and paranoid. I haven’t mentioned that I’m a divorce and she is spending the day at my apartment tomorrow.

My question is: how soon should I offer up this information and what strategies have worked for any of you guys to bypass paranoia and the fear of getting back into a relationship?

Lastly, to all the fellas going through it right now, I would like to give testament that you can and will make it through and that the other side is not a terrible place. Keep going!