Bought my stbxw a trip for her 50th birthday coming up at the end of next month. Was kind of a Christmas/birthday gift. Now we’re getting divorced and the first day of the trip will be the first day it is eligible to be official.

I don’t hate her. I’m trying to make this as friendly as possible. Giving her all the standard stuff moms get as far as custody and child support go. But I can’t trust her. She has been lying to me about some pretty big financial stuff for at least 7 years. About half our marriage.

I’m pretty sure based on her behavior since telling her I wanted a divorce that she won’t sign the final paperwork. She’d do just about anything to keep us together. And has threatened to get a lawyer to fight for I don’t even know what, informed me she could stick me with half her debt and force me to pay her attorney fees. And her current backup living plan, (because she’s tanked her credit and will be filing for bankruptcy again,) is to move in with her older daughter four hours away and take our kids out of there school to go with her.

I may be able to get her to sign the paperwork if I agree to go on the trip with her. But that means at minimum sleeping in the same bed with her for three nights and two four hour plane rides sitting together. I don’t really have the money to get a separate hotel now and we’d already be eating super budget because of all the added expenses now. The trip is non refundable or changeable.

She uses every opportunity to try to seduce me and convince me we can work everything out and that we should stay together. I really don’t want to deal with that for four non stop days and nights. But I also don’t want the threat of her never signing the papers and dragging us through a long messy and expensive legal fight.