Been three weeks since I moved out and the last time I had sex with the STBX. Closing in on two weeks since I filed. Financial infidelity. Found out she’d been hiding several credit cards and a loan for at least seven years.

I don’t hate her. There have been lots of issues throughout our relationship in both sides. I’ve tried to get out many time before and after we were married. But shes very good at manipulating. Using sex and different levels of companionship. And she’s pushing every day just to hang out, play games, have sex, feed me, light off fireworks together with the kids on the fourth, whatever.

She’s been trying to present the best version of herself and begging for me to change my mind ever since I found out about all the debt. And it’s worked in the past more than once. I’m worried I won’t be able to hold out. I’m going to break and have sex with her or have dinner and play a game which will lead to sex.

It may be easier if we didn’t have kids. If I could just cut her off completely. But she will be doing this everyday until they are 18 and I can cut her off. How am I supposed to stay strong?