Depression

CB33isGMC · 2020-05-06T03:24:06+00:00

I think many of us have been there man. I won’t disrespect you with the usual cliches. Just make sure you are doing it for the right reason - you are truly ready to die. Make sure it is about you. If it is about someone or something else, please think again. You won’t be a martyr. Your wife won’t be on some lifelong guilt trip. You will die and life will move on. In the animal kingdom and in human beings a female will take up with a male’s biggest rival with absolutely no remorse. It’s how they were made. I’m sure there’s some evolutionary reason. It’s a cruel world but these are the rules we were given. Think again. Then think again. Then think again. Somebody needs you. You can help somebody or some cause. I don’t know you but I am certain your existence can make someone else’s life much better. Look for God before you make this decision. Truly search for him. He is not on some mountain top, God is in the gutters. He’s waiting to help you in times just like these.

jayboog5000 · 2020-05-06T04:25:47+00:00

If you can make it to Saturday then you can try to make it until the following Saturday, amd so on, so do this if nothing else but for your kids, they need you! Four things, they are free or very inexpensive: 1: work out, lift, calisthenics, jogging to the point of exhaustion DO IT TODAY AND EVERYDAY! 2: 5-HTP 200mg at bed time 3: ashwagandha extract 500mg-1000mg in the am 4: macuna puriens, a dopamine precursor, try it mid day every other day at first

Do this for a month and check back, we are here for you you arent alone in this, I was in the same spot 4 months ago, you can do this

j_smith987 · 2020-05-06T02:55:50+00:00

Are you divorced yet? These feelings are normal and I have seen them in people who did not initiate the divorce. They feel betrayed, cheated and have a tough time coping with this. As time passes, you will learn to deal with this. Keep yourself busy with whatever. If you feel you are at Rock bottom, then the only way is up from now on.

Archer8z · 2020-05-06T03:37:15+00:00

I feel alot of the same way as you. I came very close one night but my stbxw talk me down while I was sitting in my car with my gun in my mouth. I went to a mental health hospital for 2 weeks after. That was 4 months ago. I still struggle with suicidal thoughts everyday. The one and only thing that keeps my going is my daughter. Knowing if kill myself someother guy will raise my daughter. Try to take it day by day or hour by hour if you have to. Most days im depressed and miserable but ill put up with being depressed and miserable knowing i get to spend time with my daughter everyday. Nothing makes me happier thans spending time with her watching her laugh, seeing her grown, and learning new things.

theoracleofosiris · 2020-05-06T09:10:30+00:00

I’m not divorced but I’ve experienced the same abandonment and alienation from someone I loved more than life itself. Having lost that connection and emotional intimacy, I too figured nothing would ever be like that ever, i also considered ending it.

I didn’t obviously. Along the way of this journey of life, I learned somethings. That life doesn’t have to be meaningful or wonderful to be lived. There’ll be good days and there’ll be some really really dark days. It constantly changes back and forth. On those good days I’d be glad I didn’t end it, on those dark days, it’s gets really depressing but it doesn’t last, the tide changes again and new moods and sensations prevail.

I’m not telling you not to end it. I personally believe in self determination and if you’re really so convinced that you want to do it, it is your entitlement as an autonomous individual.

You’re 31. Stay a while and see what happens.

ragnarocknrock · 2020-05-06T20:17:47+00:00

Thanks everyone. It’s not my ex though I’ve had thoughts of suicide all my life. Her shutting down on me just elevated the depression I felt. I prayed for a miracle, fell asleep and at 2 am my wife called me about our dog being sick and maybe dying so I went over and after a few hours of talking about random things we talked about us a little bit. I hadn’t talked on the phone with her since the day I left. I was able to get some answers and say what I needed to say she let me hold her for a little bit and it helped. I’m not sure if my thoughts will ever go away maybe someday I’ll blow my brains out during one of the happiest times of my life. But her opening up just enough to get answers helped. Telling me she said some stuff in anger and didn’t mean it helped, her telling me she doesn’t want a divorce yet just some time and space to find herself again helped. I feel happy today but everyday will be a fight to not go numb again but the day I go won’t be cause my wife. It’ll be cause I can’t fight my mind anymore. You guys helped with advice and letting me know it’s the easy way out.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2020-05-06T06:41:24+00:00

Where are your kids from the previous relationship / marriage going to go?

And the 2 from this most recent marriage? Leaving them all w the Ex? If so that is a shitty thing to do.

You’ve already received good advice here. I will just add, why are you letting someone that you married after knowing them for three months and then from the sounds of your posts treated you like shit be the reason for you to end your life?

bodil4461 · 2020-05-06T16:39:55+00:00

You really want some POS walking your kids down the aisle or giving a speech at their wedding because you took the easy way out?

You kill yourself and she wins, no other way around it. Get angry, get in shape, fuck women that are hotter and younger than your ex. Life gets better but it takes work.

Title	Depression
Author	ragnarocknrock
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	May 6, 2020 2:23 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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