Desperation

LandCruiser_ · 2021-07-25T23:17:29+00:00

No matter what you choose to do , don’t make any rush moves. Actions based on emotional state are great in situations when your life is in immediate danger. Not so much otherwise (99.999% of your life)

Keep your head up, brother. This shit is rough.

25_years · 2021-07-26T02:18:43+00:00

OP, you didn't tell us much about your marriage. Is the marriage linked to your depression? Well, you're in a divorce subreddit, so I expect so.

First, the "good" news (relatively) is that you don't have three children. You have an adult child and another child about to become an adult. There are plenty of men out there ready to hit the ejection seat, and they have three little kids. That means they're on the hook for big child support payments for years. You're nearly down to one-third of that.

"Am I crazy?" Probably not. Probably just burned-out, frustrated, reached some breaking point. No one here can tell you the real answer. Maybe you can talk to a therapist or a trusted friend. But no one here will fault you for wanting to become a more "integrated" man. Sometimes that means taking time off to test yourself and re-discover your passions in life.

Mid-life crisis? If you bought an expensive bright red convertible sports car and you're banging a 22-year old, then yes. Otherwise, again, maybe the Laboring Man needs time for self-culture. There's nothing wrong with that.

Can you reasonably get away for a few weeks and be sure the 8-year old is taken of? Or possibly even take him/her with you before school starts again?

You're 44. That's not old. Picture yourself happy and content, at age 64. What would that old man tell you to do now? Think about this carefully. Perhaps you already know the answer.

Good luck, brother. Keep us updated.

pegleg_legal · 2021-07-26T02:56:31+00:00

46 here brother - the midlife crisis is real! And damn, that’s a helluva spread among the youngins. How’s the marriage?

Lucky_ducky8793 · 2021-07-26T03:00:50+00:00

It my go to daydream. I get it.

kls1042 · 2021-07-26T12:44:27+00:00

You're not crazy. Just don't abandon your eight year old. You will regret that.

ConfidenceTough690 · 2021-07-26T16:36:42+00:00

Go, just went out west myself for 10 days, it was great

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2021-07-26T01:44:48+00:00

Hi,

What's stopping you from actually going to where you want to go for a month or two or longer? What's the big deal?

Depression? People I've met who have depression just sit on their ass and say they have depression. Do you run everyday? Do you pray? Do you do fasting? I doubt the answer to any of those is a "Yes". Start doing one of those things and go to /r/running or /r/intermittentfasting or /r/keto to learn more

Title	Desperation
Author	WV-Rambo
Upvotes	5
Comments	8
Date	July 25, 2021 10:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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