Been living with a dead bedroom for probably 15 yrs of my 20 yr marriage. Been in couples therapy and sex therapy for the past 2 years, and my wife just isn’t validating my feelings of rejection and lack of physical intimacy beyond sex. We are good co-parents but I want more than a roommate.

I’ve stayed because of our kids. They are 16 and 13. I hear arguments both pro and con about pursuing my happiness now vs waiting the 5 years until they will both be in college.

If I do choose divorce now, and things stay amicable, I wonder if nesting would work as a way to lessen the earthquake of disruption to the kids lives.

Does anyone have experience sharing custody with the kids staying in the house and the divorced parents moving in and out?