"I think we need to redefine date night to any time we leave the house with less than 50% of our children."

I saw things going off the rails as early as 2011 and sought therapy. She went once and said the therapist - who talked against me most of the session by my own admissions - said one thing that could be taken as critical of her.

2008 - shotgun wedding

2014 - we had twins. Rescue babies, in a sense but not really because I don't think she knew there was a problem that wasn't my fault.

2017 - steadfast refusal to go to therapy by her - because i'm the problem and if I'm gone she has no problems.

Wasted so many years.