STBX filed 7 months ago. 45 year marriage had gone bad so I was not devastated after the initial shock wore off. She rejected the thought of therapy and I left it as an open offer. A week ago, after my haircut, she asked what rumors were going on at the hair salon. I just told her about the topics I discussed with the hairdresser, but later on it hit me that she wanted to know specifically if her name was being trashed. Kinda felt like a bit of guilt popping through. I have suspicions but would really like to figure out how to tune in to the gossip.