So just sharing into the void. Together for 17 years, married 12 years, separated Oct 2021 (I took my ring off), I filed Feb 2022, divorced Nov 2022. I had previously thrown away like 99.5% of everything, but just didn't feel ready or comfortable with a few photos and items. During the separation (ie before I filed) I wasn't wearing my ring, but had it on a necklace. I put the ring & chain and the last 6 items into a box and haven't touched them since Jan 2022.

Was on the cell phone today and her email address keeps popping up in my autocomplete. I decided to look up how to delete that, did it; and then had this huge goofy smile and feeling of light hearted joy come over me. I was like 'I need to throw away more things.' So came home and put everything (physical) into the trash. Still have the digital copies of the wedding on my cloud server. But I'm going to go through those and delete everything that isn't family (300 photos). I think that's ok, to keep some of the wedding photos. It was a big day. And truth is...

The eX looks pretty bad! LOL, I really couldn't see it when I was 'in love.' Yes, I knew she was over weight but I didn't care. Looking at her now, even when she was at 'her best' she's plain, over weight and just not that attractive. I want to keep a couple of those around to keep my brain in check and remind me of that. I was simping hard during most of the marriage. Maybe they too will get deleted 'some day.'

As for the ring, I couldn't figure out what to do. Could put in the trash, or sell for a few bucks; but i didn't 'feel' right. We had to sell the house, and I used my equity to buy a small plane (dream of mine for 20 years). I'm going to fly over the mountains and throw the ring out the window. For some reason that just really resonates with me!! 😁

So this is more of a 'just sharing' post than anything. It's been just shy of 2 years since I had last had the ring on. My life is damn near perfect post divorce, EXCEPT for my sleep. My sleep has never been right since I filed. I keep waking up after 4hrs, and while I can often go back to sleep, it's not restorative. I know the sleep issue is mostly psychosomatic, will see if this helps any. Going to start delete wedding photos.

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