It’s happened again. So she decided back in January of this year to pack up the kids items in a trash bag and leave at 0200 in the middle of a snow storm. She stayed at one of her friends house on their couch with my son and step daughter and had to put my 1 year old in their pantry. Long story short we got back together and we moved (i ets’d out of the army). It’s been real rocky for the last 7 months, but I did have hopes of thing getting worked out as time went on. She did it again, but this time she left while I was at work, and took the kids and my car. She’s telling me she wants a clean split and that we will go 50/50. But I already have my best friend telling me that she is claiming I have a drug problem (I don’t and can take a piss test at any given time), she’s also already look for an attorney amount other things. Right now she has my kids in a home that really isn’t the best for them, she’s also pulled them out of their school and registered them an another one. My 4 yr has speech issues and this was his first year of school. I could go on and on about what’s going on, but really I’m looking for advise on how not to fall in the traps she is trying to lay. (She has her parents and sister (who has done something similar to her ex) coaching her) I know now she is really just coming for the money and it has very little to do about the kids. I love my kids to death and I hate they are paying the price, how do I play my cards right? I’ve got them for the weekend but man, I really don’t want to give them back, especially seeing how hurt my son is. And I can’t let her get primary, she is trying to use them as leverage, you know like she doesn’t really care how it affects them. Just how it controls me because she knows I’ll do anything for them.