My stbx left very unexpectedly September 2nd. Took the kids and all their clothes and left a note on the counter for me when I got home from work. (3 days after a survey she had) it’s been an eye opener for me in a lot of ways. I’ve learned just how far away I got from myself and who I was becoming with her. But it’s been absolutely miserable through out. I’m still waiting for a new court date, because so far she has done almost everything to keep me from being in at least my boys life (she completely cut me out of her daughters life, she was 4 when I met her). 6 years down the drain. She has done nothing but lie, and tell me things to intentionally upset me, and it works. It’s been getting hard for me. I love my kids more then anything, but it’s getting so hard to keep going seeing how bleak the future for us is. I can’t seem to move on though, and I have this nagging feeling that she cheated and that’s why she left (based on actions she’s taken, things she said, and things she’s done so far) but you know, she won’t tell me anything that she just doesn’t love me. Long story short, I’m getting better, but still having some really hard days/nights where the depression and all the other thoughts get to me. I have a lawyer, and I know she is shooting herself in the foot with the kids, but I don’t want my marriage to be over, I don’t want to loose everything that mattered to me. No one else really understands it, and I don’t really have anyone to talk to about it. I don’t think I could even take her back after the things she has done now, but I can’t let it go. I’m just looking for advice, similar experiences, wisdom from the elders. (26m) (27f) for reference.