State: NC Wife: 5 months pregnant, and we have a 2.5-year-old daughter

A few days ago, we got into an argument. We both said things to hurt each other.

I apologized and bought flowers the same day, but she threw them in the trash.

The following Tuesday, I had to leave town due to work until Friday. I also emailed her to apologize and let her know I'm going to give her some space for things to cool down.

I had a previous domestic case with her a few years ago that was dismissed due to lack of evidence and expunged.

Her called today and said the my wife is I. Contact with some caseworker and used the date I left for work as a separation date.

I'm freaking scared and having anxiety attacks.

I'm planning on going back home in a few days.

I don't want a divorce, what should I do, what CAN I DO for a positive outcome?

Appreciate the advice ✝️🙏