Made the mistake of one, marriage in general. And two, marriage in the military. 4.5 years together and 2 married. I used to think everything was going to be fine until I slowly realized marriage is a prison. Putting everything about you in the back burner to appease her and her needs. While your life is being sucked away from you, you can kiss decision making, privacy, money, solidarity your self worth away on complete chance/hope and prayer she doesn’t pull the plug.

Yes, before you say it I’ve lurked on this sub a while. I grew to hate being married but as of recently I didn’t know how to leave without being dragged over the coals for as long as she so desired. I should’ve taken action and ended it earlier because guess what? Now 3 months before we were due to move across the country on orders she had decided she’s going to leave and live in another state by herself claiming we’ll “reevaluate later get back together”. Leaving me alone with all her shit here in the apartment while she’s across the country doing Christ knows what while we’re still married by law. She truly thinks living apart and asking me for $ monthly is “doing me a favor” due to the fact I can “stay married”. Absolutely fucking not, now she’s gone and I have NO idea her actual location or what her real intentions are. I can only imagine she’s setting up the frontline to ruin my life due to the fact she’s now very quiet and pretends I don’t exist.

Now my options are to file here before I move wait the 90 days and hope she doesn’t counter and try to drag this on forever. Luckily we have no kids and no real shared assets except for the car she drove there (I’m co-signed). If and only if everything meshes in time and I’ll be divorced by the time I get where I’m going. So again, anyone lurking this sub and sitting in a house with your spouse pretending you don’t want to swan dive off the roof.. know that you are just waiting for her to pull the pin on a grenade. It’s not if, it’s when. Take this situation and let this be a reminder you know what’s good for you, don’t play games. Marriage is nothing but insurance for the female. And nothing but a ticking time bomb for you. Learn and grow. Stay away from the plantation and never rely on anyone else, sure as shit not a female to provide your happiness.