Making friends after separation/divorce -

dday_throwaway3 · 2026-01-31T00:41:54+00:00

What hobbies do you have? That's a great outlet to find friends.

Reflog1791 · 2026-01-28T18:52:20+00:00

Pick up golf and join local men’s club.

North-Permit-1021 · 2026-01-28T02:21:34+00:00

cook something or order and try to share it with em.. thats a start for me hah

--The_Cheshire_Cat-- · 2026-01-27T12:05:54+00:00

Same here,... after our divorce I was almost completely on my own.

I first spent a lot of time just working on myself, get my life in order and comfortable with myself.

After a while I figured it is about time to make new friends as I was tired of doing activities always on my own (I'm 42M).

Funny enough, I made 2 friends with women that I had a few dates with. We weren't compatible relationship wise, but got along very well and became friends.

On the other hand I started to meet new people through a platform where you can meet with people for various activities, something similar to meetup.com
Basically anyone can create a group or event and random people can join in, or even contact you directly for 1:1 meetups if you find somebody interesting.

There are plenty of adults looking for new friends, but you gotta put in some work.
Sometimes you just get along well and actually become friends, sometimes you had a nice meetup but that's it.

I think there is also a dating app for making friends (lookup Bumble BFF)

Good luck!

drtij_dzienz · 2026-01-27T10:06:45+00:00

It’s hard to make friends as an adult. Do you have any interests or hobbies? If you join a club or group class about that hobby/interest you would at least surround yourself with like minded individuals. It doesn’t have to be something you are already good at; it could be something you always wanted to learn. You could take a language or a martial art class, for example. For me, I have some social network at the boxing gym at which I take classes.

Kind-Number-419 · 2026-01-27T05:56:46+00:00

I'm 48, been divorced 2 years, also live in SoCal and have not found new friends either. Lost a lot of friends through the divorce. I was a pastors kid and really can't stand church so that's out for me as well. I tried the bar scene for awhile but that gets old real fast. I go to the gym, surf and ski but haven't had luck meeting people that eay. Those are solo activities. Many will say use the meetup app to find an activity you like to meet people. I've looked and I just can bring myself to do any of the events. There's a new app called Timeleft that sets you up for dinner events with others looking for friends. Good luck. I haven't figured it out yet.

upvotersfortruth · 2026-01-27T05:48:48+00:00

47, not religious so Church not really an option.

Disagree, it’s a ready-made social gathering place. Pick a laid back non-denominational church to visit - you won’t regret it. At the least it will get you back into conversing with other adults about stuff and things. Signed, Atheist

But anyway - volunteering is another great way to meet people and you can do good at the same time.

Bowling league

The goal isn’t to find friends, the goal is to socialize in environments that may lead to friendships. That mindset change is important.

Title	Making friends after separation/divorce -
Author	MajorTom_11
Upvotes	7
Comments	7
Date	January 27, 2026 5:15 AM UTC (6 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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