Moving on after a failed marriage

sicrm · 2021-09-30T00:44:09+00:00

find ways to keep yourself busy (going to the gym, picking up a hobby and joining a club/class).

then when you have the time/means, pick somewhere you either always wanted to visit or haven’t been to in a while, spend a few days there to clear your head.

also once she cheats, the relationship is basically over.

the chance you forgive her, she’ll still respect you AND won’t cheat again are pretty slim.

dday_throwaway3 · 2021-09-30T12:01:56+00:00

> She truly was my best friend

Best friends don't stab you in the back.

> Any advice on how to go about this

Retain a family law attorney and file for divorce.

> Ive mostly just been hitting the gym

Working out makes you feel better. It's a solid way to keep up your spirits while you go through this crucible.

Mjolnir37 · 2021-10-02T22:41:02+00:00

She was not your best friend.

BrownieGod1011_ · 2021-10-02T22:52:00+00:00

Does it make any difference that now after several days of intense and sincere communication i have an answer. She told me crying that at some point in our relationship she stopped loving me as a partner and started to love me more as a friend. Simply put she might've cared and love me but she wasn't in love with me anymore,no spark . That honestly hurt more to hear than the shock of the affair. We also talked about how we got way to comfortable with each other and both stopped trying thus a lack of excitement. Besides that from she was saying it became clear that I didn't bother enough to show her how appreciated she was and in doing so led her to feel distance at times made her feel insecure about herself till she got to the point where she just didn't like herself. This all just cut deep as i do very much hate that she didn't communicate and did what she did but i can't blame her for not wanting to be in a relationship where she didn't feel that way anymore. What's more is the realization that she never got to find her self on her own before the relationship. When we started dating i had just turned and she had barley turned 18. We're still going our separate ways but have talked on good terms .

I'm sorry that i didn't treat her better and although I truly thought she was the most beautiful women in the world and was fully committed , I had led her to think otherwise and made her start to hate herself and pushed her away although unintentionally.

nosrednAhsoJ · 2021-09-29T23:58:27+00:00

The number of times I've seen therapy recommend in this subreddit is insane. I took the advice and you should too...

Jako_Spade · 2021-09-30T01:58:10+00:00

any kids? Focus on yourself and take at least 6 months before dating again. Also make sure u officially file divorce

Title	Moving on after a failed marriage
Author	BrownieGod1011_
Upvotes	8
Comments	15
Date	September 29, 2021 11:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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