Hey guys!

Need some advice here. I met this women briefly a year ago at a party and we reconnected again this year’s party. This time I made it a point to get to know her and managed to get her number at the end of the night.

We’ve been talking for 2 weeks. Haven’t caught any feelings yet, there is a connection/chemistry. We can talk for hours and it’s great. At first she didn’t want to go out because she thought I only wanted sex - given at the party I was flirting with her obviously.

I tend to over analyze everything. Self sabotaging right? Part of me thinks it’s because she went through what I am going through now so it could be a trauma bonded situation? She’s aware of my situation - going through a divorce, living together, crazy ex, kids, etc. I’m surprised that she haven’t ran off yet it’s a lot of complications (which I’m aware of and don’t expect anyone to get involved, shit I wouldn’t) and when we talked she had mentioned she didn’t want any drama in a relationship. She wants someone who compliments her lifestyle. She’s older than me by 16 years, another concern from both of us. I prefer dating older women or someone who’ve gone through a divorce. I find not many of the younger women I’ve met off dating app are not matured or understand my situation, plus I’d have to take care of them. I no longer have any desire to be saving any damsel the last one I saved betrayed me after 12 years.

We’re both going into this without any expectation and just seeing where things are going.

I’m not sure what I’m looking for here as advice but more of getting this off my chest to guys who is or have been in similar situation to get your feedback. Talking to friends or others who didn’t go through this seems pointless sometimes.