I need to know if I should stop trying to reconcile or just give up and get divorced.

Last fall I was playing an online game and my wife and kids decided they wanted to play. It is a game where you can talk with people. I found out she was sexting guys from the game and was chatting up like 5 other guys. I get her to stop and she starts doing in a group chat, that our kids could see if the had clicked to look at that chat. That one was just a joke she said. I told her to stop and she said I was controlling her.

We started therapy and it helped. We set boundaries and were doing OK. We have a fight over something stupid, she loses her temper as do I. It devolves into a box of cereal being emptied out.

I tell her I was going out. I went to the store to get a few things from store and cool down. I come back and she is loading the 2 youngest of our children into our van to leave. I take my 5 year out of the van and my wife tears up my arm. I go inside to say goodbye to my daughter. And then bring her back outside and put her in van. That was couple of weeks ago. She didn't even tell our 10 year old she was leaving.

Anyway, she says she doesn't want to talk about us, just to talk about kids. We still go to marriage therapy and it is split 20/20/10. 20 minutes with by ourselves each and 10 minutes together.

In it, the therapist said she seemed checked out from being wife and mom.

She is staying at her moms 2nd house down the street which is nicer than ours and she isn't made to do anything.

Should I give it more time? Talk to her about divorce?

I can answer questions if more information would help.