My STBXW had been upset with me in early May primary due to us disagreeing how to raise our kids. She lets them run around like crazy and run all over her, in public it would get embarrassing.

Even after our tiff I threw her a huge Mother’s Day. Paid for hair to get done, decorated the house, hung a banner up outside to surprise her when she got home. She seemed happy but it still felt off. The next day I found out she unblocked a guy(who was an issue in the last), I got so furious and she came up with two different excuses. I was angry, the day after that….she still hadn’t blocked him so I blew up again but she got mad at me and said I should have came at her in a nicer manner. She didn’t think it was that huge of a deal, whatever.

So she took a break and went back to her hometown with our kids. While there she went to the zoo with her sisters boyfriend alone with our kids. I objected and said that’s inappropriate because I never met the guy, plus the optics are terrible. Her sister had only been dating this dude for two months. I said if you value this marriage you won’t go to the zoo with this guy. She smirked on the phone and said I still am because you need to trust me and I’m not going to be rude and say no him.

I threatened divorce right then and there. She has cheated once in the past and the second time I can’t prove it but it was definitely emotional. I felt all of that in that moment. Did I over react?

She came back at the end of May and she’s leaving, and saying it’s all my fault. I’m emotionally unavailable, I’m not romantic, I didn’t show enough love for our kids, I’m selfish, etc….

Where did I go wrong? I felt like her going to the zoo alone with our kids with a guy I never met is wildly inappropriate.