Working through the divorce with the STBX. Has not been pleasant for all kinds of reasons but the kids (2 under the age of 10) seem to be doing fine, and that’s the most important thing. I would characterize the parent relationship as poor given her poor behavior during the separation. Having concerns about her coparenting. Granted I don’t like or respect how she has handled nearly everything but trying to cast that to the side in an effort to get a rock solid parent plan so hopefully we don’t have to interact.

With 50/50 custody how do you handle: 1) handoff of custody? AM or PM? 2) child expenses / add ons? True up monthly? 3) does everyone use a parenting app? 4) should work / scheduling / whatever be an issue do you offer the X the first right of refusal to take the kids or do you just cover your days however (paid help / family, etc). 5) force an agreed upon timeframe to intro new people (my kids are young, this concerns me as the X is a strong co-dependent and will look so to do asap). 6) bills for the kids - everything is on my credit cards (activities, etc) bc I owe alimony / CS but thinking I force a change here so she can’t go wild.

Any other parent plan advice is welcome.