is the ability to not REACT initially, but to RESPOND appropriately. When one begins to distance oneself from the emotional instigator, both physically and psychologically, one will remain in ones power place. One has become steadfast and unmovable. Their goal is to get you to willfully remove yourself from your great position. . . MAN-ipulation. All forms of pleasure, from sex to erasible states of anger/frustration are tools used to remove you from your stance. Wrestle with the pig, in mud, you stop, momentarily, only to realize that the pig's having fun. Therefore, you lost, not when the pig out-wrestled in it's own environment, but the moment you stepped into the pen voluntarily. Collect evidence, don't react, and let the lawyer do the heavy lifting.