Signed the papers today

NohoTwoPointOh · 2021-08-28T00:46:34+00:00

Here’s to new beginnings!!

GodAce974 · 2021-08-28T01:44:55+00:00

It gets better. I'm still in the middle of my divorce, nothing finalized. I started a lot like you, amicable, emotionally broken, not sure what to do.

In my situation I discovered that she was cheating on me with another man, which caused the divorce, so once I learned that a switch flipped for me and I was 100% done. This escalated my healing process, though I'm nowhere near 100% better. That will still take time.

I don't know your details, but it will get better. Take time for yourself, journal, write letters that you don't send, spend lots of time with family and friends and very little alone while you heal. And don't go out trying to replace her. Work on you, and when the time is right you'll find another woman if that's what you want. And if you don't, there is nothing wrong with being single. I love being single. I currently have no plans to remarry or even date. But to each their own. Just don't rush healing, and don't rush dating. Take your time.

majikso · 2021-08-28T13:34:13+00:00

I feel you bro!

But
>I’m moving out tomorrow morning.
????

Did you split 50/50? Are you getting a massive payout now?

Little knowing about your relationship and yourself if you haven't been on a dating scene for a more than a decade, like myself, you are coming in for a massive shock.
Hypergamy of women is ubiquitous. Women only date up or equal. They don't date down.

It's because of global dating marketplace. Women go for global valuation of their sexual attractiveness. OK. But they have unrealistic expectations. Check dating sites reports.

the bottom 80% of men (in terms of attractiveness) are competing for the bottom 22% of women and the top 78% of women are competing for the top 20% of men.

For an average women 80% of guys are below of average in terms of attractiveness.

patently_pleasant · 2021-08-28T13:26:19+00:00

The next couple of months will be some of the hardest in your entire life. You will completely change as a person, and that is a wonderful thing. Invest in your own well being. Workout, go to church if religion is important to you, get a new wardrobe to the extent you can afford it, treat yourself, and be close with those who are close to you.

Divorce is easily a top 5 worst event that happens in your lifetime, especially if this is a long marriage. It’s never easy. You can always dm me if you need a kind internet stranger to talk to who has been in your shoes. I’m just 7 months divorced now, and life is still not amazing, but things are so much better and I’m far happier than I was in the marriage. Good luck brother

tanen55 · 2021-08-28T14:37:32+00:00

"So much of my identity was wrapped up in being her husband. I’ve gotta find myself now"

This was me, and still is to a lessening degree, at the beginning as well. Finding out who I am is turning into an exciting time. Use this as a chance to grow and be a better version of yourself.

View this as an opportunity and not a set back. Your mindset is going to dictate your success.

Title	Signed the papers today
Author	Mandrews3
Upvotes	16
Comments	8
Date	August 28, 2021 12:09 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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