The pain never stops

tiaanaD_7750 · 2023-04-27T03:39:46+00:00

No, the pain doesn't stop. It's been over 14 months since mine walked out the door with my son & took off with her mom. I spent the first 2 days on the bathroom floor. After that Its just continuously gone down hill. I've tried everything to please her & do what she asked me to & it's just screwed me. So, here's my advice. I know you love her. Ok. But that woman that looks exactly like her, isn't the woman you married. Ok!! Get that through your head & you'll be better off faster. Now, Stop talking to her more than you absolutely need to. Remember, that woman ain't your wife so what are you talking to her for? Time to start doing what youve always wanted to do. And remember, DO NOT talk to that woman that looks like your ex wife. You need to treat her as such, your EX wife. Past tense. No longer worth your time. Got it. Good.

Alatornio · 2023-04-27T02:27:21+00:00

You better not be thinking of anything stupid.

Flight_Data_187 · 2023-04-27T01:22:38+00:00

Oh lord. Not sure that would take the pain away.

314FinitePi · 2023-04-27T04:02:46+00:00

I drove out to Arizona, laid down in the desert and spent 6 months getting stoned 24/7. After that, I went back to work. It still sucks, but after a year and a half I am starting to realize how much better off I am without her. Divorce has been over for almost a year and I wish she would just go away. Do you. Work, sleep, eat ocassionly and give it time. Be strong. It will start to get better.

vector5633 · 2023-04-27T12:23:54+00:00

It doesn't rain forever. The sun will eventually come out. One day you will look back at this and thank your lucky stars you went through this and survived it. You will be a better man.

Now, grieve the death of your marriage. It's normal, go through the emotional rollercoaster. We all go through it. But don't dwell on it. Pick yourself up! Go out with friends or alone to clear your head. Take on hobbies or get back on hobbies you had before you got married.

Get your ass off the floor and couch and get in the fucking gym! Become a better man for yourself! Focus on your kids, your health and career. Your best life is yet to come. Believe me, been there....now I'm enjoying myself and my life.

One valuable lesson I learned. Never marry again and never trust women. Always have your ears up.

Whatever becomes of you is because of your actions and dedication. Good luck my brother!

mikemartin7230 · 2023-04-27T02:46:10+00:00

Step 1: shut up Step 2: sit down Step 3: shut up again Step 4: ignore her Step 5: focus on you and any kids that may be involved Step 6: repeat steps 1-5

Xan-Diesel · 2023-04-27T15:15:29+00:00

In a few years you'll realize you don't want her to die. You just wanted the unbearable pain, anxiety and sense of impending doom to stop. One day in the future you'll discover that the pain *did* stop and it took a long time. It'll get less intense and come back and it'll cycle like that through waves over the months and years.

The temporary satisfaction you'll get from hearing a story like you're seeking out won't mask the life altering damage you're enduring right now. Acknowledge what you're experiencing and how difficult it is. You're grieving what amounts to a death. That person was likely the most important person in your life that isn't *you*.

Do what you have to do to keep waking up and taking care of business. If you need to scream into a pillow or ugly cry - do it and then keep moving. You're going to be okay.

314FinitePi · 2023-04-27T18:10:26+00:00

Well, If you end up on Texas, let me know. We can exchange the name of our exes so neither of us accidentally get involved with a mistake the other one already made.
All my exes live in Texas. lol

Title	The pain never stops
Author	libsreallybad
Upvotes	7
Comments	10
Date	April 27, 2023 1:17 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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