Three years ago she filed. We have four kids together, one her son from a previous relationship that I adopted. We were married for just under ten years, together for closer to 15. She slung so much bs and mud my way in court I finally stood up and one point and pleaded with the judge, “so we can all just make stuff up and it’s recorded as truth in this courtroom?!” The judge yelled at me to sit down and that I’d be held in contempt of court, as she allowed my wife to continue with her exaggerations and straight lies. But what really has torn me up. What really keeps me from moving on with my life. Her attorney asked her what qualities as a husband and father were truly positive in all of the years of knowing this man?… she shrugged her shoulders and said flippantly, “he knows how to make good money…”

I hope no one else has someone reduce years of relationship and years of trying down to basically nothing more than their earning potential. It’s been three years and here I sit. Still a mess and shell of the former man I was before divorce proceedings.