Unsafe. Don't know what to do.

RabbitGlass5578 · 2026-02-28T17:54:35+00:00

Set up hidden cameras. Recordthe abuse. Once you have the assaults on video, call the cops. Get her arrested for family violence and get an emergency restraining order. Have the divorce papers ready to go. Serve her the papers when the cops arrest her.

IL1kEB00B5 · 2026-02-25T17:22:18+00:00

My brother just went through the same thing. Here was my advise to him. 1. Have your phone always recording, do not allow her the opportunity to say you did whatever, because she will. 2. Stuff doesn’t matter, it’s only things, they do not matter whatever you think. 3. Move out now, why are you waiting, things will not be better.

FUMoney · 2026-02-25T16:56:16+00:00

Take multiple audio recordings of the screaming and abuse. Even better if on video.

You may need it to buttress your claims during divorce. Better to have it if needed.

Sacramentardo · 2026-02-25T16:48:40+00:00

Talk to a lawyer. Thats how you protect your stuff.

TheConjugalVisit · 2026-02-25T15:53:17+00:00

My ex is the same, she even set up spy cameras in my home after she moved out which is highly illegal.

Get a lawyer
DO NOT leave the house
File a police report for assault (had to do that with mine)
Just ignore the bullshit

After 13 years my ex started wanting her name on all my things, didn't comply.

bankofgreed · 2026-02-25T15:51:49+00:00

Get an attorney asap. You’ll have some legal protection if things get ugly.

Change all your passwords and hide your valuables. Get a safe if you need to.

I know it’s hard but one thing tha helps is to be a gray rock around your wife. No reactions, no discussions, nothing. The fire just burns itself out.

bluephotoshop · 2026-02-25T15:45:58+00:00

Legally, she’s entitled to half of all assets acquired through marriage. You can cash out your half, I think. You should determine how much you had prior to marriage.

Ok-Cucumber-6976 · 2026-02-25T15:34:04+00:00

If you have the money. Take them to a temporary animal shelter. There is no other option.

Specific-Objective68 · 2026-02-25T15:17:24+00:00

Also what do I do with our money? I have sole access to our brokerage where majority of our money is. I know the house also needs to be sold ASAP.

Title	Unsafe. Don't know what to do.
Author	Specific-Objective68
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	February 25, 2026 3:15 PM UTC (5 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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