When did you know to give up?

ForbiddenBromance · 2022-05-24T23:31:08+00:00

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214speaking · 2022-05-25T00:25:03+00:00

If she says she still wants to be separated I’d start moving on now/today.

sicrm · 2022-05-25T01:55:24+00:00

accept her decision and move forward with the divorce.

you can’t change the past or another persons mind.

keep doing the work and embrace what happens. she sounds like she’s done but one way to really kill any chance is by begging.

pegleg_legal · 2022-05-26T05:08:36+00:00

My drinking played a huge role in my divorce, much more of a chronic thing over time than any sort of acute day of reckoning. It takes it's toll on your partner and, kind of weirdly, they get used to it and the damage is done. So even if you get better, especially if we've failed previously, we can't expect them to get excited for us and be enthused or willing to stick around. Not a moral judgment, just a fact of life and part of reality. No matter what, they've carried a lot of water for us in the past so we can't be angry at them if they aren't willing to face the possibility of having to do it.

sublimeonskunk · 2022-05-25T05:49:31+00:00

I don't know man, if its on you, its on you. I think family and love are the most important things we have in this world. If you have 2 young children and your son cries for you everyday I think you should do everything in your power to prove to her you have changed. Divorce sucks ass. Big time. Don't recommend it to my worst enemy. Be a man and get a hold of yourself. Take responsibility. I'm not trying to be harsh, just honest.

47omek · 2022-05-25T15:18:36+00:00

Do not move out of the marital home. Your wife can hit the bricks but you need to be there for your children. Your son won't have to cry every day if you're there every day. Going forward 50/50 parenting time is your bottom line.

SanMiguelDayAllende · 2022-05-25T01:49:51+00:00

I gave up after going through 4 marriage therapists in 5 years.

Title	When did you know to give up?
Author	Addition_Radiant
Upvotes	6
Comments	8
Date	May 24, 2022 11:07 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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