Won my hearing, I don't care.

Curious_Will222 · 2026-07-10T14:52:43+00:00

Sorry to hear bud. Sounds like depression which is understand.

Movement, sun light and therapist will be your friend.

Also, fire your attorney.

the_last_0ne · 2026-07-10T11:53:07+00:00

Dude I just got served papers 2 weeks ago but im in the same boat as you. I have actually been on leave from work since she moved out during to extreme depression and anxiety (which was here prior but obviously got 100x worse when she told me she had a lawyer and was going to stop paying any of our bills).

My therapist has been incredibly helpful: if you dont have one, get one. They will listen to whatever you want to say and offer helpful advice.

Anyway we are working on tiny things. She had me go to the movies alone last week just to get out of the house, it was actually somewhat nice. If you can somehow find motivation for 5 minutes of something, do it. I drew a bath yesterday to chill and read a book, I love reading. Read the first 3 pages and realized I didnt retain a single word of it so I stopped, but the bath was nice. Ive been working on cleaning my house and taking down anything that reminds me of her tp go into a bin in the basement. Literally I will move 1 thing, go lay in bed for a while, go outside and smoke a cigarette, come back in and move one more thing. Sometimes I stay in bed longer.

Video games have been somewhat engaging, especially little simple games I dont have to think about that have a clear progression path: you just do what the game needs you to do without thinking about anything. I cant get involved in any complex games which is unfortunately my preference. Im going to go camp for a couple nights locally next week also just to go have some quiet alone time outdoors. If you can go to a remote campsite you can build a big fire and yell if you want. Bring an axe and chop wood.

And im getting a puppy next weekend since she is preventing me from seeing our dogs, and my lawyer said it'll have to wait for the final with all the other "marital property". I think thats going to be huge for me. I havent been without a dog in 14 years except for the past 2 weeks.

Hopefully this helps.

Tldr: if you get hit with motivation to do something seize it, and give yourself the grace to stop when you want to. Baby steps.

upvotersfortruth · 2026-07-10T09:51:47+00:00

your pathways are fried, my friend. meditation was just about the only thing that helped be get back to feeling anything

RootCauseFound · 2026-07-10T09:22:54+00:00

You haven’t stopped caring. You’re exhausted. After months or years of fighting, even good news can feel empty. Don’t mistake numbness for the end of your story. Your kids will never know how many battles you fought behind the scenes, but they’ll know you never gave up.

Title	Won my hearing, I don't care.
Author	Faraway_Neighbor
Upvotes	10
Comments	15
Date	July 10, 2026 9:17 AM UTC (1 month ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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