(21m) I’ve been miserable for the past few weeks?

LegitimateWasabi6183 · 2023-04-14T10:20:26+00:00

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fathergoose77 · 2023-04-14T16:52:55+00:00

You have a tendency to post the same questions on a bunch of different subs but you don’t really put a lot of effort replying to the people asking you questions about your situation and trying to give suggestions.

I’m hesitant to answer because I feel it will just go wasted and you will post a similar question again in a month or so. We don’t know what you have been trying to work on since the last post. You won’t get different results if you are doing the same thing again and again.

Different-Item-7994 · 2023-04-15T01:38:23+00:00

You. Care. Too. Much. Don't be confident because you think you have to. Don't try to get laid cause you think you need to. Go one day without forcing yourself to do anything and just do what you feel is you and not frustrating or miserable. Do this for 1 day and then see what you end up doing.

pssiraj · 2023-04-14T08:51:15+00:00

Have you considered not trying to live up to their standards? I guess it's different if you just want to be like them, but your journey is your own.

Remandergrowth · 2023-04-15T15:30:16+00:00

Hey man, first I have been where you have been before. I was 21 and felt like shit because all my male friends were hooking up and had relationships while I was alone. However, I was able to figure myself out as I got older, and I'll give you the steps I used to do it. I would recommend therapy as well.

Dedicate more time to your self development. Oftentimes, people who suffer from issues with women have issues with self-acceptance. They do not like being alone and think that finding a woman or sex can fix that. The reality is you need to first learn how to be comfortable with yourself before you can learn to make other people comfortable enough to give you a chance. Develop hobbies, read books, and join clubs. You will begin to notice as you do more and more of these you will feel less bad about the situation with women as you will like your own life a lot more and know even with a rejection you are not returning to a bad life. I started writing poems again, got into photography, and took day trips to get a better understanding of myself.
Once you have begun to find self-acceptance, you can focus on building your social circle and social skills. More friends means more social opportunities to practice your socialization skills. This will eventually translate to your ability to talk to women. For example me and one of my friends and I used to talk to people all the time and test how well we were able to have conversations. At the end of the night, we would talk about mistakes we made and how we could have done better. To do this, you have to make it a point to go out, sometimes alone, and learn to develop fun conversations. Charisma on Command is a great youtube channel to begin building your abilities as an entertaining talker. Make sure to get phone numbers and text all the people you meet. Invite them to go out and see if they respond. Even if you get only a few responses, 1 new friend opens the opportunity to meet a new friend group. That new friend group opens you up to events and other opportunities.
Learn to keep women as friends and have the discipline to write attractive women out of your mind. What I mean by this is a problem that a lot of men make is they seem to believe that having female friends has no benefit. This is balantly false. The women in my life have helped me both emotionally and with most of my problems. And on top of that they can help you with your woman problem. The women in my life have taken me to many events where I have been given the opportunity to meet and talk with their friends. They gave me great introductions and sometimes helped play Wing Man to get me with their friends. Getting some women in your life can definitely heavily improve your relationships with women. It also gives you a safe zone to ask for feedback and get better.

dharkanine · 2023-04-14T13:08:55+00:00

What are you doing about it?

Title	(21m) I’ve been miserable for the past few weeks?
Author	LegitimateWasabi6183
Upvotes	18
Comments	16
Date	April 14, 2023 8:07 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/exredpill/comments/12lp6u2/21m_ive_been_miserable_for_the_past_few_weeks/
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