I’m embarrassed to ask this, because you’d think at 30 I wouldn’t be dealing with this drama.

I’m seriously bothered by my partner having a private group chat with himself, his friend, and an egirl they met online. They spend a lot of time playing video games but then privately mock her with comments about how “she’s big enough to share”.

I’m uncomfortable with the situation, but he tells me that I am exerting control and acting crazy. I ask to see the chats and he gives me his phone, but when I see sexual jokes in the group chat, I get upset. On matter of principal, he says I need to get over it, and that she is a cool girl that they talk with in a bro way.

My partner does identify as red pill. We’ve had relationship issues in the past where I couldn’t get over some chauvinistic views that he had.

He’s frustrated that I am making this into a bigger deal than it is, and I’m not seeing reason.

I’m heartbroken that he can’t see my point of view and consider my feelings.