Are relationships transactional?

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GoodSilhouette · 2022-07-06T05:12:25+00:00

looks and status? what about the normal couples you see walking around at the mall?

status, do you know normal people with "normal" jobs like working at stores, restaurants and uber drivers etc who are dating, married or in a relationship?

looks and status are cool but you don't have to be Brad Pitt at his prime to get into a happy loving relationship or sleep around or whatever else.

WaffleConeDX · 2022-07-06T06:45:57+00:00

How do you get it outside of your head? Go outside, that’s how and observe real life instead of red pullers idea on what a relationship is. Normal people poor to rich are in relationships. You’re missing this key word. And it’s called L-O-V-E. Once you discover it and witness it you’ll actually see how BS redpill mindset is.

suhurley · 2022-07-06T06:50:11+00:00

No one should show up to the table with nothing. Who would sign up for that? And if what someone comes to the table with, suddenly or gradually disappears, then yes. There’s a chance the relationship will be compromised.

Looks, money, and status all exist in vast gray areas. If someone (man, woman, whatever) is exceedingly unattractive / doesn’t look after themself, has no money /no prospects / no career, and not a single friend – not from childhood or school or job or neighborhood – who want to hang out with them. And that person complains about not having a boyfriend or girlfriend, is anyone really surprised? You gotta have SOMEthing.

WhoDoomsTheDoomer · 2022-07-06T08:18:08+00:00

Relationships are transactional in that you give and receive. However what is given and received is up to whomever is in the relationship. For some that could be money and status, for others it's emotional stability or physical affection. The transaction itself can be anything

thediverswife · 2022-07-06T13:01:46+00:00

Go outside and meet more girls. Looks, money and status aren’t the glue that hold relationships together. Plenty of people want companionship, loyalty, kindness and attraction in their relationships

Initial_Instance8457 · 2022-07-06T07:00:35+00:00

If you go outside you’ll see all sorts of folks with all sorts of people

2022-07-06T07:07:16+00:00

All people aren't the same. All relationships aren't the same.

You're coming out of a money making cult that's relied on programming you to think in black snd white about 2 groups of people. Now its time for you to use your imagination and challenge all of this logic by seeing sll of the exceptions .

Good luck !!

Slight_Fig5187 · 2022-07-06T10:05:47+00:00

Well, that's obviously not true, if it were, all couples and subsequently only rich men would have girlfriends and wives, which is clearly not the case. Take a walk in a middle class or working class neighborhood and observe the men and women in there

SweelFor- · 2022-07-06T07:37:01+00:00

It's easy to get this out of your head, stop consuming content that puts it in your head

apriliasmom · 2022-07-06T05:24:27+00:00

Go to therapy and stop posting on Reddit.

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JUMPsuperstar · 2022-07-06T07:54:01+00:00

I wouldn't say so. However, it is true that you shouldn't invest in relationships where they only take and don't give unless they're family or something.

whatarechimichangas · 2022-07-06T10:07:37+00:00

Looks, money, and status are nice to haves but are not essential for looking for a partner. It's not shallow to include looks, financial stability, and some social status in your standards, but if these are the ONLY things in your standards then you're setting yourself up for an unhealthy relationship. And this goes both for you and potential partners. This has nothing to do with gender.

Healthy things to look for in a partner are much more subjective, and they're more important than looks, money, status: are they passionate about something good? Can I trust them to be there for me emotionally? Are they fun to hang out with? How do they fit into my future plans for growth as a person? Do they see me as an equal? Do they get along with my friends? How do they handle arguments/miscommunication?

Imagine someone else asking themselves these questions about you. Do you think you're the type of person who would yield good answers? If not, then it doesn't matter if you have looks, money, or status. None of that matters if you're a bad partner.

There's alot more for sure and some might be more important than others, but foreal yo think about who you are, what it is you really expect from a relationship, and whether or not you're ready for that kind of emotional responsibility.

universalwadjet · 2022-07-06T16:23:43+00:00

It kind of makes me laugh when I see posts like this because all the guys I’ve dated have had no money. All these posts asking if women want their money, all I can think is “what money?”

Seriously! My partner of 2.5 years is broke af and even if he wasn’t, it wouldn’t change how I feel about him. We are just trying to get by.

Even if a guy did have money, so what? That’s not going to sustain my attention - I look after myself!

Title	Are relationships transactional?
Author	kingrobinzz-theking
Upvotes	7
Comments	33
Date	July 6, 2022 4:44 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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