Did anyone else screw up a relationship because of trp?

diamandisonskidrow · 2022-03-29T08:31:07+00:00

I'm female and trp has wrecked me. Almost nothing it teaches has come true in my real world experiences, and now I have no idea what the hell to do because ive internalized that I'm a worthless old hag (even though two of my exes are dating women older than me who have kids... explain that, trp? 🙄) I've thought about making a post here about it, maybe I should.

alexbrove · 2022-03-29T04:00:31+00:00

I can't say that I know what you're going through because I wasn't in trp, but I've seen how powerful it can be, and I watched someone else change as a result of the red pill.

I think you mustn't blame yourself for this. The red pill is a form of brainwashing and it's addictive. It convinces good men that they need to become narcissistic in order to meet or keep a woman, which is completely untrue. The ideology has worked on millions of men for over a decade and it's still working and ruining lives. Trp leaders are selling lies and men just keep buying it :(

Maybe seek therapy? This might help you understand what happened and help accept that the way in which you changed was due to your environment and influences at the time, and the real you was still there all along. And thankfully, the real you is back now and hopefully back for good!

I hope this gives you a bit of comfort in knowing that it's not just you and you can definitely get to a better place.

RedPillDetox · 2022-03-29T08:09:17+00:00

Yes, and it's basically why exredpill exists now

I wish she could have known the real me. It's my biggest regret

Couldn't have said it better

Maddzilla2793 · 2022-03-29T12:57:36+00:00

Just ended things with my TRP now ex.

And definitely buried the lead. So skip to the end for more on how you should be proud of yourself.

He refused to every let me see the real him and when I did see glimpses and told him I love him for him. He’d spiral, and think he wasn’t good enough. He could never believe me when I told him how I felt, that I found him attractive and so on.

One day he finally said he truly believed I actually wanted something genuine. And I clung to that (I have my own issues on wanting to help/care/fix people). But would then try to remind me he actually knows my mind better then me? So this couldnt be true..?

He ended up being extremely emotionally abusive at the end. Blame everything on me and destroyed me with his words.

He made me believed I was going to fall apart at 30, got mad at me for wanting to go back on birth control (I physically can’t have children) and quid pro quoed my emotional needs saying if he will support me emotionally I need to be able to always sexually satisfy him (mind you we went long distance 4 months ago and I have a chronic health condition).

He also started pushing me to be redpilled. Tried to wash away my cultural identity and tell me as a Puerto Rican women I am actually white.

Okay enough about me…..

I want to say this. Unlike him. You are aware. You see how this is wrong and how it destroyed something good.

How it hurt you AND your ex.

And that my friend, is a great first step. Be proud of yourself for opening up, being here, and realizing that this shit isn’t healthy.

With your eyes open you can start working on change in your life and move on. Build yourself up and find a new relationship that will be everything you want and possibly more.

Sending you a virtual hug.

Vynxe-Vainglory · 2022-03-29T11:06:26+00:00

Yes.

Doing something I learned about in TRP was precisely the catalyst for the trail that led to ending a relationship with the otherwise most compatible woman I've ever been with.

I deeply regret it. Mostly because in hindsight, I was doing something I thought I was "supposed to do" instead of what I truly thought was correct and sincere.

I'm ashamed of that weakness and stupidity; especially since I hurt someone that I love.

Crinklytoes · 2022-03-29T08:28:20+00:00

If you're not dead, let her know ....

5MinuteMentalFitness · 2022-03-29T14:05:47+00:00

Well, I temporarily lost my life partner not through trp but through bpd which has trp behaviour built into it during the I hate you devalue phase and don’t leave me fear phase.

In fact, Bpd people are quite similar to trp people only the cause of bpd trp behaviour is intense emotional responses and fear of abandonment reactions where trp seems more intentional deliberate snd sociopathic in nature.

But actions are actions and any abuse is not ok and should not be tolerated and sadly bpd people are some of the most abusive.

That said, the way I got my life partner and my life back was through a combination of a one year intensive dbt therapy followed by 5 years and still going of self help therapy/learning about psychology which has actually led me to train become an industrial occupation psychologist and start an online coaching business relating to maintaining and maximizing mental fitness which is what I-o psych is all about.

IcyOwl2333 · 2022-03-29T15:20:33+00:00

I did I listeneded to rollo,xander,ams,and fitx, blew that relationship to high hell my sister had to step in before i did more damage (slutshaming,dreadgame,punishment) i became an abusive prick my personality did a 180 and i just became someone i hated. I still have relapses but im a work in progress. To clarify I was cheated on and i thought trp was a way to keep the pain from happening again.

Title	Did anyone else screw up a relationship because of trp?
Author	ilovehaaaaam
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Date	March 29, 2022 3:28 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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