Feeling shame or weak for just being naturally empathic to people / women?

valraaa · 2021-03-06T19:14:38+00:00

Become comfortable with your sensitivity and empathy. True masculinity is doing your own thing, even though it goes against the male code. It's easier said than done, though. It took me a year of therapy to get there and it's not like things are magically falling into place. Our modern world and TRP in particular are full of insecure men being obsessed about projecting a strong male image to the outward world. So when they come across someone who is comfortable with his sensitivty, they are usually taken aback and are triggered by this. But even that is managable once you are confident about yourself.

zeroicemaze · 2021-03-06T20:40:39+00:00

im an hsp introvert and every time i feel my sensitivity i think of jason mamoa who openly admits to being sensitive and it makes me feel better every time

PSSD_Kara · 2021-03-07T00:22:45+00:00

You need to let go of the crabs in a bucket mentality that toxic men have. You very likely WILL lose the approval and inclusion from men with a misogynistic mentality, which is a shockingly high percentage of men. Only morally low value/no value males have an issue with kindness and respect for all people. As a man, you gotta decide whether or not you wanna gravitate towards other men who have high moral character, or low moral character. It’s completely a choice. There’s plenty of men in both categories. Which group will be the men you look up to? Find your reason why.

As a woman I’ve learned that there’s a large portion of males who will always hate women, hate putting effort into women, and hate others who challenge their selfish worldview. I’m a recovering “pick me”, I used to try and change these woman hating men, or feel “empathy” for their selfishness. This was 100% the result of being raised by toxic narcissistic, abusive and neglectful parents. If you go on in the world with empathy and respect for others, but ALSO for yourself (this does not mean being a doormat), you will absolutely get pushback, but you will attract people who think alike.

adultpioneer · 2021-03-07T00:28:54+00:00

As long as your personal boundaries are strong about what treatment you will/will not tolerate from others and that you hold strong to them and are comfortable saying NO, then it doesn’t really matter if people “perceive” you as weak for being kind. It will actually weed out the people that try to take advantage of kindness a lot quicker.

Inareskai · 2021-03-06T21:12:32+00:00

Weird one, but I suggest CinemaTherapy on youtube. Two men, both with wives and children, one of whom is quite stereotypically 'handsome' who cries at pretty much everything!

BuckeyeFan007 · 2021-03-08T04:27:00+00:00

First off... stop comparing yourself to other people. There's no role that you have to play as a man to be considered a man. BE YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF.... ALWAYS!!

Secondly... treat other people as you would want to be treated.

That's the only two things you need to do to succeed in life... it's really that simple.

michael1962-01 · 2021-03-09T13:16:52+00:00

TRP does not teach to be an asshole. It teaches you to enforce your borders.

Birdie_head · 2021-03-10T06:58:25+00:00

(Rant started)

Jeeze, this is why i don't give a fuck about genders stuff anymore.

Personally, i think fuck this people. Being nice and emphatic is fun, satisfying and help you understand your surroundings better, and connect into something bigger than yourself. Why the fuck people think this as "weakness" is fucking beyond me. Probably relict of the past where people are busy stone other people to death to maintain pyramid scheme of power guised in spaghetti monster cult? Because its cheaper to turn part of your population into emotionless painbot and others into baby machine that produce more emotionless painbot so you can have more meat into the grinder just to maintain your fucking throne of cards? Fucking fuck its depressing in both ways. Fucking bunch of hairless monkeys.

Ehm (Rant ends)

Don't let naysayers (and bunch of basement dweller paleo-LARPers) ruins you mate. Being empathetic is good. Sometimes there's unnecessary drama, but emphaty and compassion is things that really helds us human together, and us to our surroundings. Not fucking dick measuring contest. Don't lose it.

Copperstoner · 2021-03-10T07:02:37+00:00

It should be enough to know what you are capable of.

Your standard mode can be nice&friendly, but if someone tries to use you, you can still shoot him or her down.

Title	Feeling shame or weak for just being naturally empathic to people / women?
Author	perla-madonna
Upvotes	28
Comments	32
Date	March 6, 2021 6:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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