Have it all?

magical_elf · 2021-01-31T08:51:36+00:00

Of course women can have a career and children. My company is full of women doing exactly that. And it pisses me off that this is even a question. No-one asks if men can have a career and children. It's not the 1950s anymore

Inareskai · 2021-01-31T10:49:03+00:00

Why is this a question you ask yourself often?

There are many, many women who have a career and children. So of course they can do both.

Can men have a career and children? Obviously yes. Presumably these men want and love their children as well as wanting a career. Why would it be possible for them and not their wives?

Mh882130 · 2021-01-31T11:42:32+00:00

The short answer is yes. The long answer is more complex and should start with, “Can a parent have a career with children?” to which I would say it depends on what your idea of career is.

If your idea is 40+hours a week and think you can maintain that without your kids suffering or shipping them off somewhere? Well it’s going to be quite hard. Same if you are in a high position or if you are in a career that demands a lot of extra time outside your work.

But to simply say oh you can have it all the way you want, again it depends but the reality is in most cases you can’t. Sacrifice will be required.

Your best bet is to do your research by talking to people who have kids in your feel to get a sense of how it’s going to be like.

Part of my career lies in being a performing artists and I had to semi retire due to my children, especially in the beginning. There are always going to be sacrifices in life and more so with children as it’s no longer about what you want and what is best for you but also them.

Stargazer1919 · 2021-01-31T13:47:37+00:00

Anyone who answers "no" to this will be completely ignoring the women who have both children and careers.

Time2378 · 2021-02-01T05:00:12+00:00

Yes. I have a career. Yes. I have children. So yes, I have both. But your question is limiting because you assume that children and career is ALL. I have a dynamic spiritual and (monogomous) sexual life. I have hobbies, goals, plans, values and purpose. Technically, I have it ALL. Do all the things I have rock at 100 percent efficiency and awesomeness. Nope. Because I'm human and there are only 24 hours in a day. It's the physics of the situation. You can have it ALL. But holding it ALL at once is a hard task for mortals. 😉

2021-02-01T13:00:36+00:00

Of course.

I don't know a single SAHM now. All of my friends who are married and have kids have also careers.

It's redpills revenge fantasy that we can't have it all. Most of us can.

Dopaminedetoxing · 2021-01-31T22:15:58+00:00

Depends on a variety of things. The statistics are against you but if you are willing to create that future its possible.

Depends on age, what type of career you want, your partner and other societal factors.

The answer is definelty not a no but it isnt a straight yes either. It takes hard work, a willingless to sacrifice and a lot of "love"

DemandPsychological · 2021-02-01T00:53:07+00:00

Being there for kids and family is more than just time. Plenty of parents are home and don't engage with their kids, because tv's exist.

You can work long hours and still 'show up' as a parent. I did this for over 25 years in tech.

There will be times when the family needs to come first, and there will be times when the project needs to come first.

Actively discussing this with your family helps them learn what prioritization and sacrafice actually means. Kids learn a lot thru observation, so doing this well can greatly influence how they balance these things later in life. Doing this poorly will also influence...

Do it, but do it right.

cvntcvntcvnt · 2021-02-01T19:37:53+00:00

lilastr · 2021-02-04T12:45:16+00:00

Yes, majority of women are doing that. Been doing that for 3 decades. And will do it better since you can hire babysitters.

Can men work and be fathers at the same time? They’ve been doing that for a long time too.

I really understand your worries because I had them too but... It’s 2021, this mentality gotta change sis.

Title	Have it all?
Author	ciopink
Upvotes	1
Comments	13
Date	January 31, 2021 5:16 AM UTC (5 years ago)
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