How can i get past black pill

Wooden_Worker_3107 · 2022-07-03T20:35:32+00:00

Black Pill is only true in online dating context. Because of all the offers women get they are very choosy there and since looks are the go to when only having pictures too determine a potential partner, it is just normal that looks matter there.

My brother as example is way worse looking than I but he has more social skills and he is way better in connecting with women and thereby had more dates, more girlfriends, more one-nighters.

vcreativ · 2022-07-03T21:14:50+00:00

BP is hyperneurotic. Even more that RP it's repeatedly asking you "do you trust a complete stranger on the internet with zero credentials who definitely is depressed" and "would you like to be depressed, too".

I watched something about analysing facia structures in an amount of detail that just wouldn't occur to me and then concluding somewhat arbitrary standards of male beauty. It was very shallow and very authorative at the same time.

Getting depressed watching this is a perfectly normal reaction. It's brainwashing content. That's how that works. The same point repeated over and over again.

I think the key is to notice that you're being used. That whereas maybe some of the initial info may have a kernel of truth, but that then there's a point where that's used to go AWOL in terms of sense made.

When you're not sure who you're dealing with and if they mean well for you. Go to observable metrics. Do you feel better or worse after spending time with them in general. Not during, but after. And since you're describing feeling worse, it's not unreasonable to wonder whether that may be by design.

In the short term, stop watching their content, really any dating/RP/BP content. That might well mean to get a new YT account so as to clear up your suggestions. No social media is probably the best. This may well be difficult, because it's easy to get addicted to bad emotions so long as they validate our self perception.

But the real core issue is an emotional one. And you won't be able to logic yourself out of that one. And it has nothing to do with dating or lack thereof. Somehow in you life, you became vulnerable to strangers on the internet making you feel worthless based on made-up metrics.

That likely hints at you having been made to feel that way before quite intensely. Primed, basically. And when you resolve that, these pills won't be able to latch onto your pain anymore.

Find a pro to talk about it. And see if you can't figure out where this believed lack of self-worth came from.

BMXTKD · 2022-07-04T14:10:22+00:00

By realizing that absolutes normally don't exist.

UnusualLingonberry14 · 2022-07-04T06:58:26+00:00

It's hard to get out of there, because these guys often have studies and data that an untrained eye can easily misinterpret.

JonF1 · 2022-07-04T21:53:26+00:00

Get off Bumble, Hinge, Tinder and stop watching black pill videos. Most of their statistics are extremely cherry picked and they often make extremist conclusions from it.

Striking_Coffee_9921 · 2022-07-05T09:39:31+00:00

You can't just refute the blackpill. It's everywhere in daily life. Also, online, but also in bars, clubs etc. it's all about looks. I'm sorry to say, but in this modern day and age women are extremely superficial.

thepowerelite · 2022-07-04T01:00:26+00:00

After living on 5 different continents, I couldn't help but notice how many women have a bias towards men who are fit, tall, white, and wealthy (especially in hippie and expat communities). Alternatively, many men have a bias towards petite, younger women. Much of this is due to narcissism, social status, Western beauty ideals, and sexual preferences shaped by media/porn.

Blackpill Science confirmed my anecdotal evidence with scientific evidence that there is indeed a sexual hierarchy and life is unfair when it comes to dating, partnership, and procreation. Some may say this is common sense learned in school when the pretty girl or sports jock gets noticeably more attention than others.

Many people get over the blackpill by taking the whitepill - fully accepting the unfair sexual hierarchy and transcending any negative emotions towards it. Others go the route of looksmaxxing and invest a lot in physique transformation, body modification, or plastic surgery.

Something thing that helps me is capitalizing on the realities of the blackpill... I sell products to the most beautiful and privileged people who are bluepilled.

Inareskai · 2022-07-04T07:36:32+00:00

One of the best ways to do it would be to change your YouTube account to a new one and build up a new recommendations profile that doesn't give you black pilled videos.

Generally I'd say 'stop watching them' but that's much easier to do it you're not being recommended them by the algorithm. You almost definitely will have the algorithm sending you BP and more extreme BP content because that's how the algorithm works.

Newbie1955 · 2022-07-04T15:47:58+00:00

I've done a lot of research into red pill and black pill, and the way I look at it is as more of a spectrum--Black Pill and MGTOW are two more extreme branches of Red Pill's ideology. They all share the same foundational beliefs. I wrote a book examining this ideology, which you may find useful. I've had a few former/current red pill and black pill reviewers, you can read what they've said. Many others have reached out to tell me it helped them challenge some of the beliefs that were holding them back.

I wish you the best of luck.

PapaSanjay · 2022-07-04T20:01:59+00:00

I was an incel in all but name only when I had my 2 relationships.

I would like to think I have grown but I am convinced I am not the best to say so.

Title	How can i get past black pill
Author	Ailurofobia
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Date	July 3, 2022 8:27 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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